Porn Stars Do Not Make Good Role Models

There is an audible groan from two mothers pushingwill have with my daughter about dignity, self-respect
their little children in strollers through the mall, as theyand real power."
are passed by a scantily clad group of teenage girls.Acts like this simple one the above mother displayed,
"What parent would let her daughter leave the houseexemplify the kind of guidance that parents must give
like that?" she says referring to the group of girls into their children starting when the children are very
matching short shorts and tight, midriff baring shirts.young. As the many media outlets bombard kids with
Girls dressing in "Ho" costumes on Halloween, little girlinappropriate sexual content it is important that parents
t-shirts with sexual innuendo emblazoned across thestand strong, be positive role models and enforce the
chests, reality television that shows little girls expertlystandards of conduct and dress that they know is
utilizing a stripper pole, musical lyrics that are sexuallycorrect.
explicit and degrading to women, the demise of datingAnother simple act parents can take is to stop giving
and the rise of "hooking up" are all appalling topics tohard earned money over to stores that sell sexually
parents of underage children.explicit material and clothing targeted to children. On
Books like Prude: How the Sex-Obsessed Culturepage 244, of her insightful book Prude, Carol Platt
Damages Girls (and America, Too!) and FemaleLiebau notes, "Every time anyone makes it clear that
Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunchover-the-top sexual dialogue or images aren't
Culture discuss in detail the detrimental effect that theacceptable for public consumption, she strikes a small
highly sexual content on television, in music lyrics, inbut meaningful blow for a cleaner, more wholesome
books, and on the internet has on today's youth. Sadly,culture."
girls are buying the false bill of goods that the media isIt is not only girls that are being affected by today's
selling them; that boys only want them for sex andhighly charged sexual climate, boys suffer too. Boys
their promiscuity leads to raised social status. Theyshouldn't be seen as sexual troglodytes incapable of
have also been led to believe that the only way tobeing kind and caring and only out for their own selfish
empowerment and equality is to be sexuallyneeds. Like girls they are complex, sensitive and loving
aggressive like men (what men?). Their role modelsand need to be taught that being a man means having
are "stars" like Pamela Anderson, Britney Spears, Parishonor and decency.
Hilton and porn star Jenna Jameson. Not exactly the"Eliminate dating and replace it with 'friends with
women parents would hand pick to shape theirbenefits?'" scoffs a dedicated husband and father of
innocent little girls.two little boys. "I would never want to raise boys who
Although the findings in the above mentioned bookstreat girls like that. How are they going to learn to
are disappointing and depressing it is probably notrelate to the opposite sex if they use them like that?"
shocking to parents to learn that pornography hasHe continues, "I want my boys to experience the kind
gone mainstream. One need just turn on the televisionof deep love and happiness that I have with my wife."
to bare witness. Eighty three year old Hugh HefnerFor some reason it is difficult for some parents of
has a popular reality show glorifying his bizarre sexualunderage children to fully embrace the role of parent.
relationship with three women, the youngest of whomThey are under the misconception that they can be
celebrated her twenty first birthday while taping andbuddies with their children, or "parenting partners". It has
wishes she were a pimp. MTV glorifies bawdy dressbecome almost a cliché now, "children don't need
and behavior on shows like The Real World.their parents to be their friends, they have enough
Lewd behavior and exposure to overtly sexual stuff isfriends, parents need to parent." It is not necessary or
not what parents want for their kids. Parents knowprudent to be the "cool mom" or the "cool dad". Level
that objectifying little girls is not good for their moral,headed, thinking grown ups know and celebrate the
emotional, physical or spiritual welfare. Putting aside thefact that they are not on the same level playing field
frightening risk of pregnancy or catching an STD,with their underage children. Let the kids have their turn
moms and dads don't want their girls getting used andat being kids; parents: it is time to let go of childhood
degraded and they don't want their boys to view theand delight in the role of parent.
female half of the population as sexual objectsAs sophisticated as children today seem, they are not
begging them for sex.miniature adults. Children desperately need and wish
A very loving and conservative mother recounts afor their parents to guide them through the tough
story that horrified her. "I look hot!" her four year oldstages of childhood. Using wisdom, intellect, established
said modeling a little two-piece bathing suit. "Over myvalues and adult problem solving skills parents can help
dead body!" mumbled the mother to herself as shelead the way to a bright and terrific future. If parents
gently removed the suit from her little one andabdicate their authority in the hopes of being their
chucked it in the trash. "No way am I letting her gochildren's friend, parents shouldn't be surprised when
down that road!" the mother adamantly declared. SheJenna Jameson takes over their role.
proudly continued, "I had the first of many talks that I