| And for those with adolescents and teens
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| | be expected. There is no reason to assume
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| in Behavior Modification or Boarding
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| | that divorced parents should always agree
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| Schools A Parent Coordinator is an
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| | on them either. What's important is how
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| impartial third party available to assist
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| | you deal with differences, not that they
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| parents in resolving issues relating to
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| | exist. It is better for parents to agree
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| parenting and other family issues prior
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| | to disagree and practice compromising
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| to their child moving on to their next
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| | than to argue and fight endlessly for
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| program or school after wilderness, or
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| | their own way. This, however, is often
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| prior to graduation or returning home
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| | easier said than done.Parents who chose
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| from their residential program. The
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| | their battles and cooperate when there
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| assist with:Clarifying priorities prior
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| | are differences are more likely to make
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| to returning home or moving on to their
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| | healthy decisions for their children. In
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| next program or school
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| | fact, nurturing an overall spirit of
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| Developing a parenting plan that meets
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| | cooperation is more important than
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| the needs of the child and the parents
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| | parents agreeing on any one particular
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| Exploring possibilities for problem
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| | issue. Also, parents who acknowledge and
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| solving
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| | effectively deal with their own difficult
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| Developing methods of collaboration in
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| | feelings usually have an easier time. On
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| parenting
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| | the other hand, recurrent arguments
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| Identifying disputed issues
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| | between parents make life difficult for
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| Reducing misunderstandings This
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| | children and parents alike. When parents
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| situation is different than when we are
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| | fight for their own agenda and neglect
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| Parenting Coordinator's assigned by the
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| | creating a peaceful environment, their
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| court. In this situation the goal is not
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| | children may develop bitter feelings and
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| to modify any order, judgment or decree
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| | have difficulties later in life with
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| of the court. At times parents decide to
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| | their own intimate relationships.
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| divorce just prior to, or while their
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| | Remembering to relate maturely and with a
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| child is attending their residential
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| | healthy sense of respect for the other
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| treatment program or school. One way to
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| | parent (even in the face of great
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| help children through this early stage is
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| | differences and in some cases bad
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| have the assistance of a Parenting
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| | feelings) is the challenge for every
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| Coordinator to openly discuss what is
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| | parent. Fostering such an environment
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| happening in the family. In some cases,
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| | teaches children much about love, life,
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| it makes more sense for children to hear
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| | change, and family relationships. Being
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| about the decision to separate from both
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| | in a family style program or outdoor
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| parents who have additional support. If
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| | school brings about many changes in the
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| this is the case, the Parent Coordinator
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| | lives of both parents and children. One
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| makes sure that they works with your
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| | change for children may be in their
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| child's therapist. They repeatedly tell
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| | immediate support network. This might
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| your child that both parents will always
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| | mean a loss of friendships and school
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| love them and that you will always be a
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| | ties. Some parents move to a new
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| family. The difference will be that when
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| | community before their child returns
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| they return there will be two households.
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| | home. This move might also include
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| This is where a Parenting Plan can
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| | changing relationships with extended
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| assist.The Parenting Plan addresses any
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| | family members. To minimize stress on
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| concerns the child may have like the need
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| | your children and ultimately yourself,
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| to maintain a relationship with both
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| | work to keep your lifestyle close to what
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| parents. It is very important that your
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| | it was prior to your child being in their
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| children understand their relationship
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| | residential program or school.When
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| with both parents is forever and that
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| | possible, keep friends, family, school,
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| they will never be abandoned. The Parent
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| | and other community support systems
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| Coordinator can help explain that a
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| | stable. When changes are necessary, make
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| divorce does not end your child's
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| | sure you give your children ample notice
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| relationship with either parent. The
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| | about them and discuss them with your
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| marriage may end, however, the
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| | child's therapist while still in their
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| parent-child relationship will continue
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| | program. The more comfortable parents are
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| Generally, for a child in a youth program
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| | with such changes the more comfortable
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| or boarding school, short, clear
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| | their children will be. In the days just
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| explanations are best. Remember they do
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| | after your child returns home from their
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| not have to understand everything all at
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| | youth program, or wilderness program
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| once.Their understanding of your divorce
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| | there is usually an adjustment period
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| will evolve as they get older and will
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| | that can last for several weeks and
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| change with their age. It is also a
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| | oftentimes several months. During this
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| benefit that we will be able to work with
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| | time, people are adjusting to new
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| their therapist in their behavior
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| | routines, schedules, and living
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| modification program or boarding school
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| | situations. It may take time for life to
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| which means they will receive additional
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| | seem normal again. Don't worry,
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| support. Another important message for
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| | eventually it will. Some kids are open
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| kids to hear is that in no way is the
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| | about their feelings and the associated
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| divorce their fault, nor are they able to
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| | changes they experience. Others will be
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| keep you together. When the idea of
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| | less vocal.Make room for whatever your
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| parents separating is completely new to
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| | children are experiencing. It is a
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| your child, reinforce to them that you
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| | mistake to believe kids must talk about
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| will make every effort to keep things
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| | their feelings. Sample Checklist for a
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| stable for them. At the same time, let
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| | stable home environment after your child
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| them know about upcoming changes.
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| | returns home from their program: Avoid
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| Remember children will ask the same
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| | too frequent changeovers between homes if
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| questions repeatedly. This is normal and
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| | this is a two household family.
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| is their way of gaining a sense of
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| | Be nurturing, supportive, and available.
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| security and reassurance about the
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| | Create routines and schedules.
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| future. It is important to keep your
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| | Develop a firm parenting schedule that
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| answers simple and consistent.It is very
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| | provides frequent and regular contact
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| important that both parents reinforce
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| | with the nonresident parent.
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| that the separation/divorce is taking
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| | Do not burden children with adult
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| place because of differences between the
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| | responsibilities.
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| parents. Working with your child's
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| | Do not rely on children to be your
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| therapist in their program helps you
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| | confidants or companions.
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| conduct such conversations without
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| | End parental conflict, at least within
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| damaging or disparaging remarks about the
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| | the child's earshot.
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| other parent. Children adjust more easily
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| | Provide clear rules and limits and be
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| when parents show a healthy sense of
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| | consistent
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| respect and caring for the other parent
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| | Support children's relationships with
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| despite difficult circumstances.
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| | their other parent and that parent's
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| Co-parenting responsibilities apply to
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| | extended family.
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| all parents whether they are married or
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| | Seek out other sources of social support
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| divorced.The extent that parents can
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| | for your children.A well-thought-out and
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| effectively co-parent their children
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| | executed parenting plan is an important
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| greatly determines how children will
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| | tool for ensuring the health and well
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| adjust after returning home from their
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| | being of your children. A good parenting
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| emotional growth program or school.
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| | plan will outline how you will perform
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| Parents who have a child returning home
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| | co-parenting responsibilities.It also
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| after graduation or completion of their
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| | details how you will handle activities of
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| program will now have to start dealing
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| | daily living and caring for your kids.
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| with more day-to-day issues concerning
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| | The parenting plan is a living document
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| their child's welfare. Decisions, like
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| | that must evolve with the needs of your
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| those concerning religion, discipline,
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| | growing children. Therefore, you do not
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| finances, morality, recreation, physical
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| | have to include every potential situation
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| health, education and emergencies need to
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| | you may encounter in the parenting plan.
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| be discussed prior to their coming home.
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| | However, it must be revisited regularly
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| These decisions need to be discussed and
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| | to make sure it meets the needs of your
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| made jointly. Remember that married
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| | family. Children are our most precious
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| parents often have differing ideas about
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| | resource.We must protect them from undue
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| all or some of these issues. This is to
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| | hurt and turmoil.Dore E.
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