Parenting Through and After a Divorce

Divorce is an ongoing process in a person's life. Asable to establish a healthy emotional environment for
people pass through the different stages of divorce,their children.
their experiences are unique to their situations. There isDuring a divorce it is common for emotions to surface
no such thing as a typical divorce. All parents mustand very tempting to get caught in historical arguments.
strive to find out what works effectively for theirThe end result is almost always hurtful and the focus
individual family. When children are involved, the resulton the children's best interest is often lost. Leave the
does not have to end with a negative impact.issues of your marriage in the past to avoid the pain
Co-parenting during and after a divorce helps tothat lead to the divorce. Find ways to discuss your
reassure children that the parental roles will continue. Itfeelings and receive the support needed from family,
applies to all parents whether they are married orfriends or health professionals to help guide you
divorced. The extent to which parents can effectivelythrough the difficult stages. Taking the time to address
co-parent and refrain from conflict in the presence ofyour own needs will help your children. Children will feel
their children greatly determines how children will adjustmore secure if they sense that their parents are
to the transitions associated with divorce. As mostemotionally healthy. Having healthy outlets for your
experts will agree, the continued conflict andown feelings will help you get through the divorce
disparaging of the other parent are the most harmfulprocess successfully and alleviate some of the stress
aspects of divorce and the most detrimental toassociated with it.
children.Divorce does not have to mean that children will
Becoming healthy, cooperative parents and workingsuffer. The parents may be deciding to end their
together for your children's sake is one of the mostmarriage, but that is separate from their responsibilities
beneficial things that parents can do for their children.as a parent. Children should be able to continue to
Parents who successfully transition from being ahave a healthy relationship with each parent whether
married couple to supportive divorced parents will bethey are married or not.