How a Parent's Attitude About School Can Affect the Child's Attitude

So many parents complain that their children don't listenand that the teacher deserves respect. These same
to them. They can talk until they are "blue in the face"children will also be more willing to complete their
and yet the child still does the same behavior that thehomework and they understand that there will be
parent is trying to change.consequences for misbehaving.
Children actually listen and hear more than we giveIf parents have a negative attitude about the school
them credit for. How many times has your child askedand/or teacher, very often their children will show the
specific questions about a phone conversation you justopposite behavior: misbehaving in class, disrespecting
finished? Although they look like they are plugged intothe teacher or other classmates, or not turning in
their game and distracted, very often they are listeningassignments or projects. Sometimes these children
to the adult conversations around them.can be punished or reprimanded for bad behavior and
If this is true, then parents need to be more carefulthey won't care.
about the language and attitudes they convey to theirSometimes a parent's one-sided conversation can be
children when they think the kids are not listening.misunderstood by the child. If you tell a friend on the
Young children especially are very impressionable andtelephone that little Suzy is failing math and that's all
eager to believe what parents tell them or to mimicshe hears, she may not understand how to work
how their own parents act.harder to raise her grade. All she hears is that she's
One of the common subjects that parents havefailing, which can often lower her self-esteem and
definite opinions about is school. Some parents like theirdiminish her excitement about going to school.
child's teacher, others will despise the teacher. SomeObviously, these are some generalizations and not
parents agree with the school's philosophy and rulesevery parent or child will fall into these two categories.
while other parents will rebel. No matter what categoryThere could also be other reasons for why a child's
you fall into, chances are your child is watching yougrades start to fall. But looking at your own beliefs and
and adapting YOUR opinions and actions about schoolcomments about the school is a good place to start
as their own.and having a conversation with your child about the
When parents have a positive attitude about school,importance of doing well in school can benefit the
their children understand that going to school is theirwhole family.
job, getting good grades is important for their future