| Here are tried and true child custody tips from | | | | you would want custody, this is not a personal contest, |
| personal experience. It is wise to remember each | | | | this is your child. |
| state will have its own laws governing child custody | | | | - 4) Offer a safe comfortable living arrangement |
| matters so read these and absorb the knowledge | | | | based on what is good for your child and their needs, |
| these tips will offer but also know your law. | | | | not the needs of someone who is single again. |
| Some of these tips seem obvious but ignore them and | | | | - 5) This did not seem as important as some of the |
| it will cost you. When it comes to money and child | | | | others but it is, keep track of all activities, their times, |
| custody nothing is left to be chanced. Family Breakups | | | | dates, expenses as questions will may come up or |
| are usually hell, not always but.. Well you have heard | | | | accusations such as your ex saying you never |
| the horror stories and unfortunately they are true! | | | | showed or were late, did not pay etc. |
| These tips as you go through this process will become | | | | - 6) Do not discuss this with your child, and do not cut |
| second nature, they have to because you are fighting | | | | down the other parent. This only makes things worse, |
| for your child, do I ever have to say that again? YOU | | | | the ex, the courts, and the children will become angry, |
| ARE FIGHTING FOR YOUR CHILD! | | | | do not do it, besides the fact it may cause you to lose |
| The first tip is there for a reason, the rest of these tips | | | | custody. |
| are in no particular order of relevance and by no | | | | - 7) If you are going for custody of your child, you are |
| means are they the only useful tips you will find but | | | | stating the other parent should not be entitled. Give |
| they are true and useful. | | | | your reasons and make sure they are true! If they |
| - 1) The most important tip I can give: No one, I mean | | | | have mental problems, drug or alcohol addictions, are |
| no one will fight or do what you will do to gain custody | | | | violent etc you need proof. Hearsay will not cut it and |
| of your child, right? Wrong. Your ex or soon to be ex | | | | the courts will hold it against you if you lie. |
| will do anything, many times even if only to defeat you. | | | | - 8) Start out by making it clear you want custody, do |
| This occurs everyday and sadly at the expense of | | | | not let the fact you stated all along you wanted joint |
| the child's best interest, I know this to be true. So right | | | | custody or just custody at this time or whatever |
| now you make the determination, you provide the will, | | | | (unless that is what you want) this will give you more |
| you give hope at any and all cost that you will do | | | | room to negotiate. If you only ask for what you think is |
| whatever it takes to secure yourself and your child's | | | | fair to start, what do you have left to give? |
| relationship, which you both deserve. | | | | - 9) If it does not come from your lawyer do not sign it, |
| - 2) Keep your cool - Do not publicly degrade your ex, | | | | enough said. Did you hear me?! |
| this can and probably will come back to haunt you, | | | | - 10) Trust your lawyer with all aspects of your battle, |
| what you say can be used against you. Do not even | | | | but never, ever be afraid to ask questions or voice |
| think about discussing facts of your case with anyone | | | | concerns. Why? See #1 |
| you would not trust your kids' lives with, if you do not | | | | - 11) Get the right lawyer, yes this is a tip, grill this |
| say it your ex will never hear it! Talking about facts, | | | | person from front to back, top to bottom. You must |
| evidence whatever you call it can destroy your | | | | know they are experienced and will fight to the end |
| chance at winning. It is very hard to do but the less | | | | for you and your child. Do not know how to get the |
| you trust someone with your case the better off you | | | | right one? (Keep reading and you will) |
| will be, this is a fact, do not take it lightly. | | | | These are a few of my choices for top child custody |
| - 3) Pardon me if you think this is stepping over the line | | | | tips; remember each state has its own set of laws. |
| but damn if you want custody of your child be involved | | | | This article seems to be a little dark, not very cheery, |
| in their lives. You may work hard and provide | | | | oh well child custody is not friendly even under the |
| monetary support but if you do not take the time or | | | | best of situations. Now compound the uneasiness with, |
| make the time to do everyday activities such as | | | | anger, hurt feelings, rejection, distrust and it can |
| school, doctor visits, hanging out together, dinner, being | | | | become war. |
| there at bedtime, well quite frankly I do not know why | | | | |