Child Custody Tips

Here are tried and true child custody tips fromyou would want custody, this is not a personal contest,
personal experience. It is wise to remember eachthis is your child.
state will have its own laws governing child custody- 4) Offer a safe comfortable living arrangement
matters so read these and absorb the knowledgebased on what is good for your child and their needs,
these tips will offer but also know your law.not the needs of someone who is single again.
Some of these tips seem obvious but ignore them and- 5) This did not seem as important as some of the
it will cost you. When it comes to money and childothers but it is, keep track of all activities, their times,
custody nothing is left to be chanced. Family Breakupsdates, expenses as questions will may come up or
are usually hell, not always but.. Well you have heardaccusations such as your ex saying you never
the horror stories and unfortunately they are true!showed or were late, did not pay etc.
These tips as you go through this process will become- 6) Do not discuss this with your child, and do not cut
second nature, they have to because you are fightingdown the other parent. This only makes things worse,
for your child, do I ever have to say that again? YOUthe ex, the courts, and the children will become angry,
ARE FIGHTING FOR YOUR CHILD!do not do it, besides the fact it may cause you to lose
The first tip is there for a reason, the rest of these tipscustody.
are in no particular order of relevance and by no- 7) If you are going for custody of your child, you are
means are they the only useful tips you will find butstating the other parent should not be entitled. Give
they are true and useful.your reasons and make sure they are true! If they
- 1) The most important tip I can give: No one, I meanhave mental problems, drug or alcohol addictions, are
no one will fight or do what you will do to gain custodyviolent etc you need proof. Hearsay will not cut it and
of your child, right? Wrong. Your ex or soon to be exthe courts will hold it against you if you lie.
will do anything, many times even if only to defeat you.- 8) Start out by making it clear you want custody, do
This occurs everyday and sadly at the expense ofnot let the fact you stated all along you wanted joint
the child's best interest, I know this to be true. So rightcustody or just custody at this time or whatever
now you make the determination, you provide the will,(unless that is what you want) this will give you more
you give hope at any and all cost that you will doroom to negotiate. If you only ask for what you think is
whatever it takes to secure yourself and your child'sfair to start, what do you have left to give?
relationship, which you both deserve.- 9) If it does not come from your lawyer do not sign it,
- 2) Keep your cool - Do not publicly degrade your ex,enough said. Did you hear me?!
this can and probably will come back to haunt you,- 10) Trust your lawyer with all aspects of your battle,
what you say can be used against you. Do not evenbut never, ever be afraid to ask questions or voice
think about discussing facts of your case with anyoneconcerns. Why? See #1
you would not trust your kids' lives with, if you do not- 11) Get the right lawyer, yes this is a tip, grill this
say it your ex will never hear it! Talking about facts,person from front to back, top to bottom. You must
evidence whatever you call it can destroy yourknow they are experienced and will fight to the end
chance at winning. It is very hard to do but the lessfor you and your child. Do not know how to get the
you trust someone with your case the better off youright one? (Keep reading and you will)
will be, this is a fact, do not take it lightly.These are a few of my choices for top child custody
- 3) Pardon me if you think this is stepping over the linetips; remember each state has its own set of laws.
but damn if you want custody of your child be involvedThis article seems to be a little dark, not very cheery,
in their lives. You may work hard and provideoh well child custody is not friendly even under the
monetary support but if you do not take the time orbest of situations. Now compound the uneasiness with,
make the time to do everyday activities such asanger, hurt feelings, rejection, distrust and it can
school, doctor visits, hanging out together, dinner, beingbecome war.
there at bedtime, well quite frankly I do not know why