| Does your child's behavior ever embarrass you? | | | | aren't clear enough, or because the consequences of |
| I know that may sound like a harsh question to ask, but | | | | breaking those rules isn't clear enough TO THEM. |
| believe me, as a fellow parent I've been there. | | | | Now, I know you're probably saying, "But, Larry, they |
| If you think you've "tried everything" to get your kids | | | | know they're not supposed to do X, Y, and Z but they |
| behavior to change, but things still aren't working and | | | | STILL DO IT. Even after I've told them to stop." |
| you still feel like you just can't get through to your kids, | | | | You may think you've spelled out the rules, but if your |
| then stay with me for just a bit. | | | | kids continue to repeat the same bad behaviors over |
| Because in a few seconds I'm going to tell you about a | | | | and over and over again, then the rules and |
| system that will change EVERYTHING for you - and | | | | consequences aren't clear to them - and that's what's |
| change it fast. So fast, in fact, that many parents have | | | | important. |
| been able to completely turn around their child's | | | | More on this in a second. |
| behavior in two hours or less, and many times in under | | | | 2. Whose fault is it when children disobey? |
| 60 seconds. | | | | Guess what? It's not their fault. |
| I know that may sound too good to be true, but I | | | | But... |
| assure you, it isn't. | | | | It's not your fault either. |
| But first let me tell you my story and how this whole | | | | I know that sounds silly. I mean, it has to be someone's |
| thing came about (don't worry, it'll be quick)... | | | | fault, doesn't it? |
| Back before my wife and I instituted a system of | | | | Actually no, and this goes back to the point I made |
| "Smart Discipline" in our home, things were chaos. | | | | above. |
| Maybe you know that feeling, too. | | | | Discipline problems and bad behavior start when the |
| Bickering, backtalk, belligerent behavior, bedtime battles, | | | | discipline SYSTEM in your home breaks down. |
| morning fights and insanity just trying to get everyone | | | | So let me ask you this... |
| out the door. | | | | What IS the system of discipline in your home? Or...do |
| I mean it was bad. Any of that sound familiar? | | | | you even have a system of discipline? I mean |
| But here's the really weird part... | | | | something that's written down and spelled out in |
| You see, even though I was, and still am, a nationally | | | | advance so EVERYONE knows what the rules are |
| respected leader in parenting circles (I've been called | | | | AND the consequences of breaking those rules? |
| "America's most-loved parenting expert"), had founded | | | | If you're having problems with your child's behavior, my |
| the most successful self-esteem workshop for kids | | | | bet is you don't. |
| ever (called Up with Youth), and was a family therapist | | | | The good news is that you can fix this in the blink of |
| who helped other families deal with issues like this | | | | an eye. Again, more on this in a second. |
| every day, things just weren't working in my own | | | | 3. Is it possible to discipline your child without destroying |
| home. | | | | their self esteem? |
| So while I was out on "the lecture circuit," my wife was | | | | YES! |
| back home with our kids going through sheer | | | | But unfortunately, so many methods out there don't do |
| craziness each and every day. | | | | this. In fact, a lot of the advice you hear is going to do |
| Bottom line is I knew I had to fix it. And I did. | | | | the exact opposite. And what you definitely DO NOT |
| Now, I don't have the space here to spell out the | | | | want is a system of discipline that chips away at your |
| ENTIRE thing for you step by step, but what I do want | | | | child's self-esteem. |
| to do is to share with you here some quick pieces of | | | | Why? Because then you're just trading one problem |
| advice that helped my wife and I "cure" our kids of 37 | | | | for another. |
| specific behavior problems that were driving us nuts. | | | | You know what happens to kids who have low |
| And then in a second I'll let you know the full story. | | | | self-esteem, right? They grow up having even lower |
| Okay, so let's get started... | | | | self-esteem, getting involved in drugs, doing poorly in |
| 1. The source of 90% of your child's bad behavior is... | | | | school, and having heartbreakingly dysfunctional |
| Lack of a true system of discipline. What does that | | | | relationships even as adults. |
| mean? Well, the reason most kids misbehave, and | | | | So you don't want a short term "fix" that's going to |
| then CONTINUE TO MISBEHAVE even after you've | | | | cause even bigger problems for you down the road. |
| corrected or disciplined them, is because your rules | | | | So let's talk about the only solution that makes sense... |