| Yet another reason for the fact that 40% of the | | | | children. However, this gives you two years to think it |
| marriages in the UK end in divorce is the Divorce | | | | over. |
| Reform Act of 1969, which has made the process | | | | Judicial Separation |
| easier. | | | | This is best if you cannot reconcile your differences, |
| A survey conducted by The Grant Thornton Forensic | | | | especially if there are pension or religious or ethical |
| Practice, shows that adultery is the prime cause for | | | | objections to divorce. Or if the marriage is less than a |
| divorce, followed by 'unreasonable behaviour'. | | | | year old, in which case, a divorce decree is not |
| 'Unreasonable Behaviour' | | | | applicable. This separation can only be granted on |
| The Divorce Reform Act of 1969, regards | | | | grounds of: |
| 'Unreasonable Behaviour' as grounds for divorce. The | | | | - Adultery |
| law is rather fuzzy on this, and almost anything may | | | | - Unreasonable behaviour |
| be cited as unreasonable - be it snoring, unattended | | | | - Desertion by the other partner after two years |
| dirty laundry, or a tube of toothpaste squeezed the | | | | - Separation with consent after two years |
| wrong way. No wonder, divorce has become so easy | | | | - Separation without consent after five years. |
| to procure. | | | | This will enable the court to make decisions about |
| Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder | | | | money and property matters. However, the court will |
| It is up to you to stop and think. Is your spouse guilty of | | | | ensure that arrangements made for children, if any, are |
| 'unreasonable behaviour', or are you just being petty | | | | acceptable. |
| because you need a break? Marriage experts say | | | | For more information about separation agreements, |
| that taking a break once a year from each other can | | | | please visit |
| rejuvenate your marriage. The distance will help you | | | | Soulmates |
| see things objectively, value each other, and recall the | | | | There is destiny involved in marriage. That is why |
| things you loved about one another in the beginning. | | | | marriage is a sacrament, blessed by God in all cultures. |
| Teach your Children Well | | | | My 84- year-old English friend says that had he and his |
| If you have children, remember that it is they who will | | | | wife divorced during the many bleak years of their |
| suffer most. They learn by your example, and you will | | | | marriage, they could never have recovered their |
| be teaching them that love between adults does not | | | | original love and improved on it immeasurably. The |
| last, and therefore, neither will your love for them. | | | | Buddhist way of thinking, so popular in the UK - |
| Marriage Counselling | | | | consider the ever- increasing Buddhist community - |
| Whatever the cause for the problems in your | | | | views marriage as a serious karmic bond necessary |
| relationship, marriage counselling is your first option. A | | | | for the spiritual growth of the couple that have come |
| good marriage counselor can help you pinpoint the | | | | together. Each person has something to learn from the |
| underlying reasons for your conflict and help you deal | | | | other, and if he or she fails to do so, and escapes |
| with them, but it requires time, and effort from both of | | | | from the situation, the situation will recur in some other |
| you. In the end, you will know whether the marriage is | | | | form till it has been resolved. For example, if ego is the |
| worth saving or not. You can find counselling services | | | | prime cause of the conflict, it must be dissolved, or the |
| at : | | | | individual will constantly face similar confrontational |
| Separation Agreements | | | | situations. |
| If you are not living together, but would like to set | | | | As J.R.R. Tokkein says in a letter to Michael Tolkein in |
| mutually agreed upon terms regarding finances, | | | | 1941 - |
| property, children , or a divorce in the future, this is an | | | | 'Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in |
| option. This is a commonly taken route, and the | | | | the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect |
| agreement is binding, but because it does not involve | | | | world, or even with a little more care in this very |
| the court, agreements may prove difficult. For | | | | imperfect one) both partners might be found more |
| example, a spouse may refuse to disclose his financial | | | | suitable mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you |
| status, or disagree about visiting rights if there are | | | | are actually married to. |