| Before making another step in marrying again, | | | | spouse. You must be contended of the |
| are you ready to experience again the | | | | abilities and capabilities of your partner. |
| consequences of living again with someone? | | | | Encourage your partner in giving his/her best |
| | | | in any other way. |
| First, you must review the performance you | | | | |
| made in your first marriage. You will ask to | | | | -COMMUNICATING ABOUT FEELINGS |
| yourself, how could I be a better spouse? How | | | | |
| come our union ended in divorce? What really | | | | You must be open to what you really feel. |
| went wrong? What weaknesses do I still need | | | | Have the time to talk. This can help in |
| to work on? There are many questions remained | | | | keeping the flame alive. Listen to your |
| in your first marriage. So you must able to | | | | partner. In listening you get what he/she |
| answer first all unending questions before | | | | wants to relate. |
| thinking to marry again. | | | | |
| | | | -UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES |
| Second, know what you're really looking for | | | | |
| in a partner. Be sure of the character traits | | | | You may not be able to do everything, it's |
| you want. Don't force yourself to settle down | | | | doesn't cost you to any problem. |
| just because you're lonely and in dire need | | | | Understanding and accepting weaknesses are |
| of a companion. Finally, let time answer your | | | | part of marriage. Humans are not perfect, so |
| questions. Enjoy your freedom, at least for a | | | | they intend to make wrong actions. You must |
| moment and give yourself much time in finding | | | | respect the little things he/she made. |
| your potential mate before you say "I do" | | | | |
| again. | | | | -MAKING DECISIONS AND SETTLING ARGUMENTS |
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| In entering another chapter in your life, | | | | These kinds of situations are very crucial. |
| second marriage is a very challenging | | | | It can make or brake. In making decisions you |
| obligation for you. Many different things | | | | must tell what you're thinking. Possibly, |
| will about to change in your everyday life | | | | accept your partner's opinion. Settle your |
| when you finally decided in remarrying again. | | | | arguments in due time. Arguments are really |
| Freedom of you will be lost again. You must | | | | mind busters. This may create gaps in the |
| be prepared of the new responsibility you | | | | relationship. |
| will take and how you take it with readiness. | | | | |
| | | | -COMMON SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION AND GOAL |
| For marrying the second time around, there | | | | |
| are lots of things to consider for making it | | | | It may be good if both of you believe in the |
| a successful one. There are many situations | | | | same religion doctrine. It can avoid debates |
| you must able to fully understand in order to | | | | on what are the right beliefs. A dream of a |
| avoid again differences to your new spouse. | | | | perfect family is one common goal. This can |
| These are the following: | | | | be done if both are very cooperative and |
| | | | serious. It can be a good foundation in the |
| -EXPECTATIONS FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE | | | | years to come. This can be the guiding force |
| | | | of making a successful relationship. |
| In the beginning of the second marriage, | | | | |
| problems will not occur instantly. As to a | | | | -COMBINING A FAMILY |
| new couple, you are savouring your new found | | | | |
| love. However, too many expectations may | | | | What if your new spouse has a child or |
| arise when one is to demanding to the other. | | | | children in his/her previous marriage? You |
| This can be fixed if you can tell what your | | | | must know at least step-parenting skills. You |
| limitations are and what you can only do. | | | | are dealing emotions of their new |
| | | | environment. Be a good at them as they are |
| -REALISTIC APPROACH OF LOVE | | | | also important to your spouse's life. Accept |
| | | | them as you accepted your partner. Make them |
| This can be the best thing ever happened to | | | | also one of your main priorities. |
| the second marriage. Love must blossom | | | | |
| unconditionally with respect. Give and | | | | In committing your life again to someone, |
| take-this is for the equal releasing of | | | | make it sure that you are really serious and |
| feelings. | | | | prepared. Sacrifice and true love must be |
| | | | your agenda as for marriage it's not taken |
| -POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND OUTLOOK IN LIFE | | | | for granted. So to speak, may your second |
| | | | marriage be a successful and fruitful one. |
| It may not be perfect at all, but happy in | | | | |
| what you have. Do not force yourself in | | | | Best wishes and good luck. |
| giving just to ensure the happiness on your | | | | |