| Before making another step in marrying again, are you | | | | have. Do not force yourself in giving just to ensure the |
| ready to experience again the consequences of living | | | | happiness on your spouse. You must be contended of |
| again with someone? | | | | the abilities and capabilities of your partner. Encourage |
| First, you must review the performance you made in | | | | your partner in giving his/her best in any other way. |
| your first marriage. You will ask to yourself, how could I | | | | -COMMUNICATING ABOUT FEELINGS |
| be a better spouse? How come our union ended in | | | | You must be open to what you really feel. Have the |
| divorce? What really went wrong? What weaknesses | | | | time to talk. This can help in keeping the flame alive. |
| do I still need to work on? There are many questions | | | | Listen to your partner. In listening you get what he/she |
| remained in your first marriage. So you must able to | | | | wants to relate. |
| answer first all unending questions before thinking to | | | | -UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTING |
| marry again. | | | | DIFFERENCES |
| Second, know what you're really looking for in a | | | | You may not be able to do everything, it's doesn't cost |
| partner. Be sure of the character traits you want. Don't | | | | you to any problem. Understanding and accepting |
| force yourself to settle down just because you're | | | | weaknesses are part of marriage. Humans are not |
| lonely and in dire need of a companion. Finally, let time | | | | perfect, so they intend to make wrong actions. You |
| answer your questions. Enjoy your freedom, at least | | | | must respect the little things he/she made. |
| for a moment and give yourself much time in finding | | | | -MAKING DECISIONS AND SETTLING ARGUMENTS |
| your potential mate before you say "I do" again. | | | | These kinds of situations are very crucial. It can make |
| In entering another chapter in your life, second | | | | or brake. In making decisions you must tell what you're |
| marriage is a very challenging obligation for you. Many | | | | thinking. Possibly, accept your partner's opinion. Settle |
| different things will about to change in your everyday | | | | your arguments in due time. Arguments are really mind |
| life when you finally decided in remarrying again. | | | | busters. This may create gaps in the relationship. |
| Freedom of you will be lost again. You must be | | | | -COMMON SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION AND GOAL |
| prepared of the new responsibility you will take and | | | | It may be good if both of you believe in the same |
| how you take it with readiness. | | | | religion doctrine. It can avoid debates on what are the |
| For marrying the second time around, there are lots of | | | | right beliefs. A dream of a perfect family is one |
| things to consider for making it a successful one. | | | | common goal. This can be done if both are very |
| There are many situations you must able to fully | | | | cooperative and serious. It can be a good foundation in |
| understand in order to avoid again differences to your | | | | the years to come. This can be the guiding force of |
| new spouse. These are the following: | | | | making a successful relationship. |
| -EXPECTATIONS FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE | | | | -COMBINING A FAMILY |
| In the beginning of the second marriage, problems will | | | | What if your new spouse has a child or children in his |
| not occur instantly. As to a new couple, you are | | | | her previous marriage? You must know at least |
| savouring your new found love. However, too many | | | | step-parenting skills. You are dealing emotions of their |
| expectations may arise when one is to demanding to | | | | new environment. Be a good at them as they are also |
| the other. This can be fixed if you can tell what your | | | | important to your spouse's life. Accept them as you |
| limitations are and what you can only do. | | | | accepted your partner. Make them also one of your |
| -REALISTIC APPROACH OF LOVE | | | | main priorities. |
| This can be the best thing ever happened to the | | | | In committing your life again to someone, make it sure |
| second marriage. Love must blossom unconditionally | | | | that you are really serious and prepared. Sacrifice and |
| with respect. Give and take-this is for the equal | | | | true love must be your agenda as for marriage it's not |
| releasing of feelings. | | | | taken for granted. So to speak, may your second |
| -POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND OUTLOOK IN LIFE | | | | marriage be a successful and fruitful one. |
| It may not be perfect at all, but happy in what you | | | | Best wishes and good luck. |