| Children need more than a child support check. As a | | | | our children the rewards are fulfilling once you see |
| parent you have to have your priorities in order to | | | | your child imitating you, something a support payment |
| really support your child's best interest. One of the | | | | could never do. Unfortunately there are some parents |
| most important things I kept in mind when I used to pay | | | | who do not want to commit to taking care of their |
| child support; was the fact it wasn't going to last | | | | children over and beyond their child support obligation. I |
| forever, and my child needed more than a weekly or | | | | want to encourage each of you currently paying |
| every two week paycheck. I made up my mind I | | | | support payment to re-examine the situation and stop |
| would do more than just provide monetarily. Every | | | | thinking about yourself and for a minute think about the |
| child needs to be supported. There are four ways to | | | | impact and influence you can have on your own child. |
| support your child. The first is by meeting their physical | | | | The results can turn into a better relationship with your |
| needs, secondly meeting your child emotional needs, | | | | former spouse, girlfriend, and your children. Keep in |
| third meeting their spiritual needs and fourth contributing | | | | mind, it's only temporary and then you will have the |
| financially over and beyond your child support | | | | rest of your life to support your child even when |
| obligation. I mention in my book "Drama in the | | | | they're older and your financial obligation is no longer |
| Courtroom" how all these needs need to be met and | | | | ordered by the courts. The system works; you just |
| the results can easily be you bonding with your children. | | | | have to work it for your benefit. I'm living proof and I |
| The ultimate goal for you as a parent is to make the | | | | used the system to my advantage without abusing it. |
| right decisions for your child's well being and best | | | | Your child or children are an asset to you and not a |
| interest. While children are unable to care or provide | | | | liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the |
| for themselves it is our duty and obligation to teach | | | | fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are |
| and train our children in the way they should go. | | | | struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities |
| Proverbs 22: 6 say "Train up a child in the way he | | | | sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help |
| should go; and when he is old he will not depart from | | | | you with your parenting concerns. |
| it." Once you and I begin to count up the cost of raising | | | | Copyright © 2008 Clark A. |