Breaking the Cycle of Uninvolved Fathers

Over the years, there has been a substantial interest inTo be able to break the cycle, it can be helpful for
the role that fathers play in the lives of their children.fathers to reflect on how they perceived the role of
Consider the following points:the father growing up, and now as an adult. It may be
Children who feel a closeness and warmth with theirthat the father is acting as an involved father
father are significantly more likely to enter college,according to his perception. An example is the father
significantly less likely to have a child in their teen years,who works two jobs in order to support his family, yet
be incarcerated, and show various signs of depression.rarely is able to spend time with his children.
The likelihood that a young male will engage in criminalAnother crucial step is for fathers to be able to see
activity is significant if he is raised without a father andthe strengths of his children. Sometimes fathers view
even more likely if he lives in a neighborhood with athe success or perceived inadequacies of a child as a
high concentration of fatherless families. Fatherreflection of themselves, this is particularly true for a
involvement is a significant factor in developingfirst born male child. Mothers can help by pointing out
empathy. Children of involved fathers are less likely tothe individual strengths of each child and collecting a
live in poverty, more likely to receive healthcare, andvisual record of each child's growth and development.
less likely to be injured.Just as in an airplane, fathers and mothers need to
More recent information has found that fathertake care of themselves physically, spiritually and
involvement is just as important for the behavioralemotionally, before they can completely care for the
outcomes of boys as girls.rest of the family. While there needs to be balance,
If one or both of your parents was less than adequate,everyone needs some respite and time to rejuvenate
this situation does not have to impact your ownthemselves. Friends are an invaluable commodity; often
parenting. It is possible to break the cycle ofbetter than therapy. For fathers, sharing of feelings is
dysfunction or uninvolvement.often through another activity like poker or watching
Fathers who are deprived of good fathers in their ownsports.
lives are sometimes able to respond by doing a betterFinally, both mothers and fathers need to recognize
job in their own parenting roles. Also, fathers whothat each has a unique but crucial role in the
simply believe in the importance of fatherhood aredevelopment of their children.
more involved fathers.