| When I first became a single dad of a two and a | | | | life.So there I was, a stay-at-home dad.Most of the |
| half-year-old energetic baby boy, I knew that it was | | | | single parents in my community were young mothers. |
| not going to be a piece of cake. however, I did not | | | | Some of them were surprise and even supportive |
| think that I would lose two jobs and get fired from | | | | once they found out that I was s singel father of a |
| another because of him. But I did. I never ventured out | | | | three year old.It was unusual for some of them to see |
| to be a stay-at-home dad. But, being at home with my | | | | a male actually taking a part in his child's life.Denver has |
| son was something I soon learned to appreciate. At | | | | long been settled in school now. However, it took a |
| first I was wondering, what would others think of me, a | | | | while for him to get use the the routine. I had to sit with |
| very healthy and strong mature man sitting around the | | | | him, in his class everyday because of behavior |
| house everday? However, it was not just sitting | | | | problems, I hold myself at fault for being off at work |
| around the house everyday, I was going to the | | | | everyday and some unskilled caregivers, I had him with |
| supermarket, cooking, washing dishes, doing the | | | | at the time, for his behavior That is when I learned that |
| launday changing diapers,disciplining, teaching, soon | | | | valued lession, and that is children crave to have |
| getting my son off to school everyday.I was also | | | | parent at home full time.After learning for lession, I still |
| dealing with his behavior in school, and his teachers, | | | | can't understand why some parents of very young |
| and other school officials. I was learning a new job | | | | children would want to let complete strangers,including |
| along with new skills htrough my on hand experiences. I | | | | relatives, care for their children while they are at work. I |
| had soon given up the horrors of having some | | | | know that the rent, mortagage, and car payments and |
| complete stanger care for my while I was away at | | | | other bills have to be met. Most most would be losing |
| work. Actually, when he was with babysitters it | | | | out on all the fun of being around young children can |
| seemed that his behavior had gotten even worse than | | | | be. |
| before. I soon learned that a few people who called | | | | They would lost out on watching their children grow |
| themselves babysitters or caregivers of small children, | | | | up right in front of very eyes. It is much fun listening to |
| some did not like children. It was all about the | | | | them trying to learn how to talk. Young Children need |
| money.Therefore, in some meetings with them, I found | | | | their parents more then their jobs need them as |
| some to have very attitudes, and had thoughts of how | | | | employees.If parents keep dumping their young children |
| to best overcharge their clients whom some of them | | | | off every morning and evening with strangers, they will |
| thought were in desperated need of their childcare | | | | lose their children in many ways. For example, the |
| services. Again, for some of them it was a easy buck | | | | children will grow up to act irresponible. They will have |
| to call themselves caregivers of small children. Some | | | | no respect for their parents or anyone. They will |
| of them should have taken some parenting classes | | | | refuse to do household chores. They will become |
| before calling themselves caregivers. They needed to | | | | demanding. They will start to fail in school.They may |
| understand small children and their needs.I have had | | | | began breaking the law. And some children may even |
| many jobs offers during my stay-at-home ordeal. | | | | grow up to dislike their parents for not being there.I |
| However, I reluctantly and temporarily turned them all | | | | heard some parents say, that their children drives them |
| down. | | | | crazy. I say, it's the job of young children to make us a |
| I did that for lots of reasons relating to my young son | | | | little crazy. If they didn't give us headaches every now |
| and his care. Most notably was because I could no | | | | and then, some would be worried. Therefore, stay at |
| longer concentrate on the job at hand and at what my | | | | home with young children until you are sure that he or |
| employers expected of me, and what paid me for. | | | | she has firm footing to be successful without you |
| When at some job, my thoughts would always be on | | | | being around all the time. I'm not avocating, that no one |
| my young son, and what the caregivers where doing | | | | give up a job, I'm just saying spend more time with |
| to him or what they were not doing for him.And at the | | | | children and they will surely make you proud.copyright |
| same time I was also going through a very nasty | | | | 2006 |
| divorce. That didn't help matters any. But still I had to | | | | a local Author and I live in Chicago. I'm the father of a |
| make a decision. In the beginning, the decision would | | | | six year old. I'm basically a fiction writer. I have written |
| impact my income, my stature in the community, and | | | | books, articles, and working on a screenplay. Most of |
| maybe my self esteem. I would have to put off | | | | my stuff is filled with drama. I try to write where the |
| relocating, buying a house, and getting a better car. We | | | | reader can learn something by thinking about what |
| would live off my savings that I had the bank for our | | | | they just read. |
| needs. Therefore, I had finally my the decision of my | | | | |