| Compassionate Parenting provides a secure emotional | | | | perfect parenting. The best parents in the world do not |
| base from which children carry out their genetic | | | | go a single day without making some error in what |
| programs to explore and interact with their | | | | they do or say to their children. Fortunately, kids are |
| environments in safety and protection. At the same | | | | extremely resilient when it comes to parental mistakes. |
| time, parents develop the protective, nurturing, and | | | | A major tenet of the Compassionate Parenting |
| compassionate skills that empower them in all areas of | | | | program is that whatever parents say and do matters |
| life, including work and health. We simply function at our | | | | far less than their emotional motivation. Unless a child is |
| best when we have emotional connections with our | | | | deep into a destructive mode, almost anything a parent |
| children that are strong, flexible, and | | | | says or does in apositive mode will succeed. In fact, |
| enjoyable.Compassion most definitely does not mean | | | | experiments show that children perceive even highly |
| letting children get away with bad or selfish behavior. It | | | | critical statements done with positive motivation as |
| does not mean that parents should go along with | | | | caring and encouraging.Regardless of what mode the |
| whatever children want. Nor does it mean | | | | child is in, almost nothing the parent says or does in the |
| overindulgence, generosity, or magnanimity. | | | | negative or destructive modes will work. Parents must |
| Compassionate parents are able to see beneath the | | | | not match the negative and destructive motivations of |
| surface of their children's behavior to get at the | | | | their children in kind. Doing so only reinforces them and |
| deeper motivations. They empower children to control | | | | teaches kids the dangerous lesson that the one with |
| their own behavior by teaching them to regulate their | | | | the most power to be negative and destructive wins. |
| motivations.Compassionate Parenting is certainly not | | | | |