| I have bad news for the ladies out there looking for a | | | | A vindictive parent can essentially steal the child by |
| husband. Today's men are afraid of marriage and | | | | moving the child far away, encouraging negative |
| having kids. This is most likely because their male | | | | feelings and thoughts the child has about the |
| friends and relatives have told them what usually | | | | noncustodial parent, or filing a false domestic violence |
| happens in the event of a divorce with children. In fact, | | | | report. The way the laws are written today, a |
| some men are calling for a marriage strike. | | | | divorcing woman can report that her husband was |
| I'm a liberal female father's advocate, activist, writer | | | | throwing things, say she's in fear, and with just her |
| and blogger. I've been studying the effect our current | | | | word she can get a temporary restraining order and |
| family law has on families, and why the laws are | | | | emergency child custody order. One study showed |
| written the way they are. Unfortunately I have more | | | | half the temporary restraining orders granted were for |
| bad news.We women have allowed radical feminists | | | | cases where no physical harm was even claimed. |
| to take over the feminist movement, the one that used | | | | Another showed the abuse claimed could not be |
| to stand for equality, and they've been negatively | | | | verified fifty-nine percent of the time. |
| influencing family law. Now it's all about domination; in | | | | The father in a case like this doesn't get a chance to |
| the case of divorce it's having complete control over | | | | face a judge or jury; he's automatically considered |
| the kids, house, money and dad's visitation time. | | | | guilty of abuse or potential abuse. This happens |
| Many fathers want equal physical custody of their | | | | without proof of any wrongdoing, and can happen |
| children after a relationship break-up. If women | | | | without his knowledge. Once she has the emergency |
| deserve equality, men do too, right? Then why are | | | | custody order, he has very little, or in most cases no |
| feminists, who claim to be about equality, opposing us | | | | chance of getting equal custody. Every day innocent |
| whenever we introduce equal-parenting laws? I've | | | | fathers visit their children in jail-like supervised visitation |
| even seen them lying during their testimony to a | | | | centers and take anger management classes, |
| legislative committee. They're also changing domestic | | | | sometimes for years. Worse yet, some of these men |
| violence laws to make them even more anti-male, | | | | not only are innocent of domestic violence, they're the |
| though the facts show males and females batter each | | | | victims. Some children of these innocent men never |
| other equally and mothers abuse children more than | | | | see Daddy again. |
| fathers. | | | | The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) has |
| Our country is in a fatherless crisis, yet men who are | | | | encouraged programs that promote the idea that |
| natural hands-on daddies are scoffed at. These men | | | | batterers are male, victims are female, and every child |
| who embrace fatherhood are shown their time and | | | | should be in the sole physical custody of it's mother. In |
| influence aren't important. Our government does this by | | | | other words, our government supports programs that |
| enforcing child support orders while not enforcing | | | | vilify men. The Violence Against Women Act needs to |
| visitation orders. Whether the father had due process | | | | be reformed or eliminated, and I-VAWA, the |
| in court or not, whether blatant errors were made, | | | | international version, needs to be rejected. |
| when the DNA test shows he's not the father, and | | | | If we want men to embrace the idea of family life, we |
| even when there is no child, our government punishes | | | | need to ensure they have equality in family law. Equal |
| fathers, including throwing them in jail, for getting behind | | | | parenting laws, favored by 85% of people polled, need |
| in child support. | | | | to be passed nationwide and a Federal Family Rights |
| The number one fear of children whose parents are | | | | Act needs to be established immediately to protect |
| divorcing is losing one parent. Yet millions of fathers, | | | | families dealing with Child Protective Services and |
| and some mothers are prevented from having natural, | | | | parents in divorce and child custody cases. The time |
| fully functioning, dedicated and loving relationships with | | | | has come to restore human and civil rights to all fit |
| their children after divorce. Unmarried fathers face the | | | | parents. |
| same problem. There are many men across the | | | | Now, back to looking for your husband. I've been |
| country, single and divorced, who want equal physical | | | | working with fathers in the equal parenting movement |
| custody of their children, who want to help with home | | | | for a few years now. These guys are some of the |
| work, meet with teachers, take the kids to the dentist, | | | | smartest and kindest friends I've had, and some of the |
| all the normal things parents do. | | | | most loving and dedicated daddies I've ever met. |
| Mothers and fathers tell me they don't believe 4 days | | | | They've experienced pain and injustice at the hands of |
| and 4 evenings a month is adequate time to develop | | | | women. When they meet women who respect them, |
| the kind of relationship necessary for the healthy | | | | who understand that most men make great parents, |
| development of their children. In many cases the sole | | | | they return a special kind of respect and appreciation. |
| custodial parent even interferes with that limited time, | | | | Come join us; you can make new friends, and have |
| and in some cases cuts the noncustodial parent | | | | the satisfaction of helping a very honorable cause. And |
| completely off from their child even if they've done | | | | who knows, maybe you'll be at a rally one day and |
| nothing wrong. | | | | meet your future husband. |