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Are You In Control Of Your Children Or Are You Just A Controlling Parent?

When it comes to our children we do need toespecially if I don't berate her and continue
be the ones in control. We are responsibleto let her help me. I have found that with
for their safety and well being of course.practice she is getting better at neatly
But we are also the ones that need to teachadding  ingredients  and  stirring.
them independence, good decision making
skills, and build their self esteem at theBasically what I am saying is you cannot
same time. Learn to pick your battles andexpect perfection from your children. It
your whole family will run smoother andjust isn't going to happen. They need to
everyone  will  be  much  happier.practice the skills you are teaching them and
sometimes they will make mistakes. Don't get
First off does it really matter if your childme wrong if they are being naughty then by
wears red striped pants with a blue polkaall means take control and dish out the
dotted shirt? If we are going to church orappropriate discipline, but if they are
somewhere special then yes I would prefermaking mistakes because they are trying to
that my daughter at least somewhat match, butlearn then a little encouragement and
if we are at home or just running to thepatience  will  go  a  long  way.
store I let her pick her own clothes as long
as they are weather appropriate. Yes I getWe also all want to teach our children to be
some funny looks but I will have my revengeindependent and sometimes they are going to
later because I of course take pictures ofshow their independence a little too strongly
all the colorful clothing combinations shefor our tastes. That is when you need to
has chosen and will be able to tease hermake the decision is this a battle I need to
about them later. My mom did the same thingcontrol  or  is  it  just  not  a  big  deal?
with me, she has this wonderful picture of me
with orange and pink flowered pants and aAfter all just because you are the parent and
green  and  blue  striped  shirt.in control does not mean you have to "win"
each  time  you  and  your  child  disagree.
Does it really matter if every corner of her
room is picked up each and every day? I sayRemember the parenting skills you are using
no, she has an area where she does hernow are the ones your children will probably
"projects" and I personally see no reason whyuse when they raise your grandchildren. You
that can't be a little messy at times. Butmight also want to keep in mind that someday
we do have a hard and fast rule that once awhen you are older the roles may get reversed
week the room is totally cleaned and any toysand your children will be the ones "in
or books must be picked up from other areascontrol"  of  you.
of the house before bed. She wins and I win.
Robin Reckard, co-founder of Lifestyle
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