| Is there a lot of stress and strain in
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| | they share connections with others and
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| your life because your children just
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| | are understood. They learn by
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| don't listen?
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| | understanding.
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| Do you spend the majority of your waking
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| | Kinesthetic people communicate through
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| moments chasing after your children
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| | their bodies. They move, feel and
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| because they are not listening to you,
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| | express through their bodies.
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| and you feel like you have to
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| | Kinesthetics love to touch, feel, do
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| micro-manage?
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| | physical activities and hug. They feel
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| Do you have no energy because all your
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| | loved when they are touched. They learn
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| energy is spent being frustrated and
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| | through touch and through experience.
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| blocked by your children's apparent
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| | So children are not any different. If
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| inability to follow orders?
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| | you are giving children orders or
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| Well, the good news is you may be able to
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| | directions and they are not picking up
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| get back your time and energy and a
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| | your orders because they are in your own
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| balanced family life simply by
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| | communication mode and not their own
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| understanding what the communication
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| | communication mode, they will genuinely
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| block is between you and your children.
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| | not pick up or learn what you are trying
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| Of course, every child is unique. Some
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| | to tell them or teach them. They are not
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| children need their freedom more than
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| | being stubborn or defiant; they genuinely
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| others. Some children enjoy structure,
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| | aren't receiving it. It's like you are
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| and some do not. But what they all do
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| | talking on an AM radio station and your
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| have is one, two, three or four
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| | children are receiving on an FM radio
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| communication modalities or communication
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| | station.
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| modes in common.
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| | For example, my youngest son is a Visual
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| What is a communication modality or mode?
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| | child, and I used to have to repeatedly
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| As Dr. Robby, Director of the LMC
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| | tell him to pick up his clothes and clean
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| Relationship Centre, Developer of the
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| | his room, but to him, my auditory orders
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| Better Parents, Better Kids Program, and
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| | were basically like the teacher's on the
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| co-author of our e-book, Better Parents,
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| | Charlie Brown cartoons, just a series of
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| Better Kids, explains:
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| | muffled noises. But after learning about
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| "Communication is the result you get.
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| | communication modes, I realized that if I
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| Different people are on different
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| | really wanted to get across to him what I
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| channels. We learn, we express love and
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| | wanted, I had to show him what I wanted
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| communicate through different modes or
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| | him to do, or do it with him, since a
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| combinations of modes. It is important
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| | Visual child, just like Visual adults,
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| to know who you are playing with and what
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| | likes doing things with you, as does a
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| channel they are playing on, or else your
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| | Kinesthetic child. The result is that
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| communication will not be very effective.
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| | now I never have to repeat myself with my
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| We basically all want to get what we
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| | son; he picks up and understands my
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| want. If you cannot get your message
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| | visual cues.
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| through of what your needs, wants,
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| | For an Auditory child, if you are a
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| dreams, goals and visions are, you will
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| | Visual parent and you are showing your
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| be very frustrated and stressed. So an
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| | child how to clean and tidy up, it won't
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| understanding of communication modes is a
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| | have an impact on them unless you tell
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| basic skill for relationship success,
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| | them what you want and/or narrate as you
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| whether that is a relationship with a
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| | are doing it. This works for a Digital
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| partner, your children, friends, family
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| | child as well, if you explain step by
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| or coworkers."
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| | step what you are doing so they
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| The following is a very basic definition
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| | understand the whole process.
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| of the communication modes. You can be
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| | For a Kinesthetic child, let them do a
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| primarily one mode or a mixture of up to
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| | run-through themselves, or let them hold
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| all four.
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| | on to or touch what it is that you are
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| Visual people communicate by seeing and
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| | teaching or getting them to do.
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| doing. They like activities and they
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| | Kinesthetic children learn and remember
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| like gifts. They notice people, places
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| | through touch. Even though a Visual
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| and things with just the slightest
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| | child likes doing, a Visual child can
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| glance. They feel and share love by
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| | learn by just seeing and watching,
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| doing things with or for other people.
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| | whereas a Kinesthetic child has to go
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| They take things at face value and do not
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| | through the motions to truly learn.
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| look deeper into things. They learn by
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| | There is a part of you (especially if you
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| seeing and doing.
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| | are Visual) saying, "Yeah, I'll believe
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| Auditory people communicate through
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| | it when I see it." There is also a part
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| talking. They have the natural gift of
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| | of you that is connecting the dots and
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| the gab, are designed to be able to talk
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| | saying, "Yeah, that makes sense, and that
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| for long periods of time. They enjoy
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| | explains why my child does what they do
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| talking and listening to other people
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| | that way."
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| talk. They feel loved when they are
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| | So go ahead and come up with creative
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| talked to, and like to hear the words "I
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| | ways to communicate with your children in
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| love you." They learn by hearing.
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| | their communication modes, and see, hear,
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| Digital people communicate through
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| | understand and/or feel what happens. You
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| connection and understanding. They find
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| | may just get that time, energy and peace
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| the deeper meaning in everything they
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| | of mind that you have always wanted, as
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| think, see and do. Understanding is very
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| | well as a balanced and happy family, too.
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| important to them. They feel loved when
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