| Dealing with defiant child behavior is something many | | | | 3. Staying calm and firm is extremely important. Your |
| parents face and feel powerless about. Knowing how | | | | outbursts will only worsen the situation. |
| to react is very important and the following advices will | | | | 4. Be consistent and your child will notice you never |
| help you. You have to remember that defiant child | | | | give in and that he'll never get what he wants by |
| behavior has its roots in your behavior as a parent. | | | | insisting or being defiant or annoying. |
| Defiant children test their parents until the rules are | | | | What your child needs is a structure. Often, defiant |
| clear and explained enough for them to accept them | | | | child behavior comes from an Oppositional Defiant |
| and change their behavior. | | | | Disorder (ODD) which requires more than just a slight |
| Let's learn how to make your child understand which | | | | change in your own parenting attitude. Don't be afraid |
| behavior is acceptable and which one isn’t. | | | | with such words. It's a label but kids are different and |
| 1. Always apply right away a negative consequence to | | | | can't be labelled. Therefore, to prevent such behavior |
| a bad behavior and a positive consequence to a good | | | | from being carried into adulthood by your child, the |
| behavior. Parents tend to forget to reward their child's | | | | structure has to be settled as early as possible. Within |
| good behavior but if it takes an effort to your child and | | | | the limits you set up, and if they are understood by |
| therefore has to be rewarded. Also, it's a great way | | | | your child, he'll grow up with values such as respect |
| to make your child choose to have a good behavior. | | | | and will be able to handle problems. |
| He'll notice he can have a much nicer life by acting in a | | | | Stopping defiant child behavior, when it seems |
| good way. | | | | impossible, can require a parenting program. Indeed, |
| 2. Give the choice to your child. Don't say "put this on" | | | | those methods provide full support, a guideline and |
| or "do this right now". Don't give orders, give choices. | | | | effective communication tools. It's very important to |
| "The white shirt or the blue one". Stick to the choices | | | | find your parenting style as it's never too late to make |
| you give. Repeat yourself if necessary. | | | | a change occur in your child's behavior. |