| You surely know that a child's bad behavior doesn't | | | | screaming is useless by applying your own rules to |
| just vanish with time and that there are many things | | | | yourself. |
| parents can do to change things. Actually, time | | | | 3. Reward his good actions and attitude. It's actually |
| sometimes worsens the situation. You should always | | | | most efficient than punishing a bad behavior! If your |
| see a bad behavior in your child as a chance to teach | | | | child sees the privilege and good things he can get by |
| him something, not as a curse or a fatality! But I guess | | | | having a good attitude, he'll stick to it. Notice his efforts, |
| that if you're looking for help parenting your child, you | | | | tell him you're proud of him each time he helps you |
| already know that. | | | | around the house or stays calm when you say "no" to |
| Ok, at first, I want you to read the following statements | | | | something. If you offer him a book or a toy to reward |
| and acknowledge they can be true (I know it's hard to | | | | his behaviour, explain which attitude you're rewarding. |
| face it!): | | | | He has to see it as a consequence of his good |
| - You don't always understand your child. | | | | behavior. |
| - You don't always have a good reaction because of | | | | 4. Talk a lot. Explain things. Before going to the mall or |
| your lack of understanding. | | | | to visit a friend with your child, tell him where you're |
| It's not your fault. First, we're not born parents. Second, | | | | going, when you'll be back home, and above all how |
| kids are strange little things! Being aware of the impact | | | | you expect your child to behave and what will happen |
| of our words on our children is very important. | | | | if he doesn't respect that. You need help parenting |
| When I needed help parenting my daughter, I learnt to | | | | your child but never forget your child needs your help |
| see the situation differently. The first thing was this: | | | | too! |
| 1. My child needs my help to stop his bad behavior and | | | | 5. Distinct your child from his behavior. He has to |
| habits. | | | | understand that you never punish who he is but what |
| Indeed, you're the one who knows how to act | | | | he does. You love him anyway but because you're his |
| differently, who has the alternatives and solutions and | | | | parent you're here to teach him what is right and |
| can teach them to your child. That's why saying "no" | | | | wrong and help him. |
| or "stop" will not make any change. Explain things, how | | | | Because you need help parenting your child, I know the |
| feelings can be expressed with words, why a bad | | | | situation right now probably isn't easy at all, you might |
| behavior is punished, why hitting is wrong... Children are | | | | feel powerless. You can make a change happen by |
| not small adults and we therefore have to understand | | | | changing your behavior. It's a proven fact. In addition of |
| how they perceive us and adapt ourselves to them. | | | | this advice, sometimes parents need a parenting |
| You need help parenting your child and I'm sure the | | | | method, (I did), because the child has strong bad habits |
| following tips will bring results if you apply them. | | | | and parents have lost control for too long but it's never |
| 2. Remain calm, speak softly, don't give in. Your child | | | | too late! |
| imitates you so it's better to make him understand that | | | | |