Andrew Taught Me to Shut Up

Andrew, a heartbreaker, was twelve years old when Iprotect his vulnerable system. I encouraged him to
met him. Nonverbal, with a diagnosis of low-functioningrock as much as he needed and provided additional
autism, he exhibited extreme auditory processingopportunities, realizing he needed the movement to
problems. Significant sensory impairments--soundscalm and organize himself. I followed him around and
were often painful--were apparent. In addition, he hadimitated him, especially when we were at a park.
difficulty starting, starting, stopping, and switchingEventually, he would follow me and it proved to be
movement (dyspraxia/apraxia). He rocked backeffective in forming joint attention and a trusting
rhythmically from foot to foot seemingly to modulaterelationship based on cause and effect. It served as a
his movement difficulties and improve fluidity.precursor to mimicking my movements and following
When he did not understand something, I noticed thatmy visual prompts.
unknowing staffers in and out of the classroom had aLike many of my nonverbal students, he learned new
tendency to repeat themselves, sometimes louder,words easily and matched them to the corresponding
most always slower, thinking then he might understand.pictures. He could not print on his own but readily
This would agitate him further and he would often lashmoved my hand to write simple sentences--facilitated
out--hurt, frustration, fear, and anger, ever present onhandwriting--to request snack items. He also used a
his face-- at the person speaking. If the speaker wasletter board with facilitated assistance. It was apparent,
too far away, a child or adult closest to him served ashe had the heart of an artist and loved working with
a target.clay.
When he was assigned to my class, he taught meLessons Andrew taught me:o Find a way to establish
very quickly to just "shut up". Often, when classrooma trusting relationship with fearful, skittish, angry or
directives were given, he gave me a confusedaggressive children. They are in distress and need
heartfelt look indicating that he did not understand whathelp.o Be sensitive to auditory processing issues. If a
I wanted. It was an injured, yet wanting to please lookchild shows agitation, find a nonverbal way to
that I can still see as I am writing this. I would thencommunicate.o Don't let them flounder. STOP
gesture, show him a picture if available, or walk overTALKING! Drop what you are doing, and attend to the
and assist him, depending on the situation and his levelproblem immediately by providing visual, gestured or
of anxiety. My attention was immediate for I hadphysical support.o Teach others to be quiet and
witnessed his intense panic.provide silent visual and gestured supports when
Because I attuned myself to easily recognize his earlyinteracting with them.
look of confusion, and to come to his aid quickly, weClick to return.
became fast friends. He learned he could trust me to