Asperger Syndrome Children and Tantrums

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Children with Asperger’s Syndrome the world“want” to fight. They know how to “push your
over share a common trait — meltdownbuttons”, so don’t be side-tracked from the
— otherwise known as a tantrum, a “birko”,meltdown issue).
a “go-off” or “spack-attack”.3. Slow down. Meltdown often occurs at the most
The visible symptoms of meltdown are as varied asinconvenient time e.g. rushing out the door to school.
the Asperger children themselves, but every parent isThe extra pressure the fear of being late creates,
able to describe their child’s meltdownadds to the stress of the situation. (Asperger children
behaviour in intricate detail.respond to referred mood and will pick up on your
Meltdowns can be short lived, or last as long as twostress. This stress is then added to their own.) So
hours. They can be as infrequent as once a monthforget the clock and focus on the situation. Make sure
(often coinciding with the lunar cycle/full moon) orthe significant people in your life know your priorities
occur as frequently as 4-6 times a day.here. Let your boss know that your Asperger child has
Whatever the frequency and duration, an Aspergermeltdowns that have the capacity to bring life to a
child having a meltdown is difficult for parents/carersstandstill, and you may be late. Let your child’s
teachers to deal with.teacher know that if your child is late due to a
Meltdown in Asperger children is triggered by ameltdown that it’s unavoidable, and your child
response to their environment. These responses canshouldn’t be reprimanded for it.
be caused by avoidance desire, anxiety or sensory4. Prioritise safety when your Asperger child is having
overload. Triggers need to be recognised and identified.a meltdown. Understand that they can be extremely
So how do we deal with a meltdown? What shouldimpulsive and irrational at this time. Don’t
you do when meltdown occurs?presume that the safety rules they know will be utilized
An adults’ (parents/carers/teachers) behaviourwhile they’re melting down. Just because your
can influence a meltdown’s duration, so alwaysAsperger child knows not to go near the street when
check your response first.they are calm doesn’t mean they won’t
1. Calm downrun straight into 4 lanes of traffic when they are having
2. Quiet downa meltdown. If your Asperger child starts melting down
3. Slow downwhen you’re driving in the car, pull over and
4. Prioritise safetystop. If your child tends to “flee” when melting
5. Re-establish self-control in the child, then deal withdown, don’t chase them. This just adds more
the issuedanger to the situation. Tail them at a safe distance
1. Take 3 slow, deep breaths, and rather than dreading(maintain visual contact) if necessary.
the meltdown that’s about to take place, assure5. When your Asperger child is calm and has regained
yourself that you’ve survived meltdowns 1000self-control, he will often be exhausted. Keep that in
times before and will do so this time too.mind as you work through the meltdown issue.
2. Keep your speaking voice quiet and your toneReinforce to your child the appropriate way to
neutrally pleasant. Don’t speak unnecessarily.express their needs/requests.
Less is best. Don’t be “baited” into an