Autism Sibling Rivalry - How Brothers and Sisters Can Cope With Autistic Family Members

Something we have come across regularly is thehaving an autistic sibling forces one to "grow up" and
difficultly dealing with the issues that our son has withbecome responsible. There can be a strong emotional
his siblings. We have compiled some interestingattachment to the autistic sibling and a keen desire to
information which we hope will be of some help.keep him or her safe in all situations. Furthermore, living
When a family member is diagnosed with autism, therewith an autistic sibling can teach one to be more open
is a vast amount of information teaching parents howabout another person's differences. In this way, having
to cope with an autistic child, and there is alsoan autistic sibling is a life-enriching experience that
information for parents about dealing with an autisticpushes individuals to be emotionally and mentally
child's different behaviors. However, there are fewerstronger and to be more tolerant towards others in life.
learning tools for those who have an autistic sibling, inOne tip for siblings to cope with their autistic brother or
fact its almost non existent, even though this is a verysister is to find a support group. There should be
stressful situation for brothers and sisters of an autisticresources available at the local chapter of the National
child. The following tips can help children cope with anAutism Society in the UK. This is especially important in
autistic sibling.helping siblings feel that they are not alone and isolated
It can not be ignored if it is severe due to the risk ofin this unfolding situation-others are dealing with the
harming a sibling, but it is possible to manage and doessame sorts of problems. Also, try to increase family
get easier as their siblings get older and caninteraction. Schedule a regular family day or family
understand more about autism and what it is like fornight each week, where all children can spend time
their brother or sister with autism.with parents or other family members and share their
Sometimes parents are so involved in preparingday or week experiences and any problems. The best
themselves and their autistic child for the transitionthing to remember is to be open about how you are
ahead that they forget that their other children mustfeeling.
also deal with the new situation. Often, siblings of anIf children feel that their parents are neglecting some
autistic child may feel the new situation acutely. Theyaspect of their life, simply asking them for a moment
may feel neglected by parents or jealous of theof their time is often the best solution. It is important for
autistic child who is now receiving more attention. Also,parents to be understanding towards their children's
they may find their peers constantly teasing themneeds for attention, whether they are autistic or not.
about having an autistic sibling, which can lead to moreCommunication is the key to helping the entire family
stress. This may lead to behavioral issues, with therun smoothly.
sibling acting out and becoming a "problem child" toRemember sibling rivalry is also part of growing up and
receive attention. In some cases, the sibling may evencan be normal within reason.
try to hurt the autistic brother or sister in an attempt toOur son with autism brings light to all those who are
remove him from the family environment.lucky enough to meet him.
However, this is not always the case. Sometimes,