Bedtime Drama

Our active, energetic children often resist the rest timealarm at getting ready.” This gives you the opening
period, whether it is naptime or bedtime they may turnto positively reward your child for his efforts at getting
it into a chase time, crying time, tantrum time or mayhimself all the way through the basic bedtime routine.
be read another time to avoid the dreaded bed.Make sure you allow a fair amount of time for your
Stand firm with your child, stick to a time you have setchild to get the job done.
for your child to rest, you may need to help your childWhen the routine is completed, reset the alarm for
wind down before naptime or bedtime and perhaps awhat's left of the hour you set aside for bedtime and
short story or may be a gentle massage to help relaxthen say, “Because you were very good and beat
the unwilling at sleep time.the alarm, you now get to stay up and play until the
As your child gets older his sleep pattern is likely toalarm goes off again telling us it’s time to hop into
change, and you may find you will need to start again,bed.
it may require letting him stay up later or shorten hisNow it’s time to set the alarm for brushing our
daytime naps as he grows.teeth, having a little drink, and using the potty (if old
Preventing The Problem:enough) or going to the toilet before getting into bed.
Firstly, establish a bedtime routine. Before bedtime orUsing the alarm bedtime routine help’s you and
naptime ensure a calm approach with a special feeling,your child have fun preparing for bedtime, your child will
only you and your child enjoys at these times of theenjoy the game involved in the bedtime routine.
day or night maybe a short story, a gentle back rub orFollow The Same Custom Regardless Of Time:
very softly stroking his hair as part of going-to-bedEven if it is past his normal bedtime, it is important to
routine.go through the same pattern as the usual bedtime to
Putting in the effort to make bedtime and naptimes ahelp your child learn what’s expected of him when
special event gives your child more than just going toits time for going to bed.
bed to look forward to.Don’t mention how late he’s been up, speed up
It may even involve a story you both tell by making itthe pace give your child a hand getting ready, using the
up as you go along, or maybe a talk on a subject youralarm set it for shorter times. Although the pressure is
child is interested in.on its important you don’t leave out any of the
Include exercise a daily habitregular steps.
Plain for your child to get plenty of exercise during hisKeep The Same organized Routine:
day, as this helps his body letting his mind know goingBecause young children find comfort in regularity, have
to bed has a good feeling.your child take his bath, brush his teeth, and put his
Setting A Regular Rest Time:pajamas on, in the same order each night.
Don’t let your child control his rest time with lateAsk your child to tell you what he thinks the next step
afternoon or evening rests, it becomes a problem atis in the routine; this helps him feel he has some say
bedtime to expect him to wind down for the night.and being more involved.
Putting your child down early in the day for his restOffer Rewards For Good Bedtime Behavior:
period will ensure less drama for bedtime.Speak to your child upon waking making a comment
Quality Time Before Bed:about him going to so bed nicely is worthwhile. Say to
Spending time with your child before bed will helphim, “Seems you were so good going off to bed, I
prevent him from putting on a performance just to getwould like to read you an extra story.” Or another
more of your attention.idea is, have a special calendar for your child and get
Keep Bedtime Consistent.him to place stickers on his good bedtime days, your
To find out how much sleep your child may need bychild will find this very rewarding.
taking note of how he acts when he has had hisWhat Not To Do:
daytime nap and when he hasn’t, and when he hasDon’t Let Your Child Be In Charge Of Bed time:
gone to bed at nine o’clock compared to sevenStand firm with your selected bedtime regardless of
o’clock.your Childs performance.
Establish a regular sleep timetable that suits yourKeeping in mind you know why he doesn’t want to
child’s needs, this pattern is likely to change, as hego to bed—and why he should. Tell yourself,
gets older.“He’s crying because he doesn’t want to go
A Solution:to bed and take a nap as he’s happy to play, but
An hour before bedtime or even at naptime this ideayou know with him having his nap now he will be
can be used, set an alarm clock for five minutes andhappier later.
let your child know when the alarm goes off its tellingDon’t Intimidate Or Smack Your Child:
him its time to start getting ready for bed.Threatening your child to make him go to bed may
This avoids unexpected surprises and helps your childcause bad dreams; fear’s and leaves your child
except what is required in the next stage, when theunsettled, not to mention how you are going to feel
alarm sounds, simply say, “The alarm is telling us itswhen his performance continues.
time to start getting ready for bed. Let’s have aPunishing your child won’t teach him suitable
bath, or wash up and put our pajamas on.”behavior.
Reset the alarm for fifteen minutes and say to yourAs an alternative, use an alarm as an impartial
child, “let’s see how we go with beating theinfluence to control when naptime or bedtime arrives.