| A litigious divorce increases emotional stress to all | | | | against the other party, putting pressure on the children |
| parties concerned in this kind of dispute, there are no | | | | to choose between them. Some parents even use |
| winners and often the children are the biggest losers. | | | | their children as a weapon to get back at the other |
| The ensuing child custody battles often become so | | | | party. The children become pawns. |
| heated between the two parents, that the children | | | | Divorce mediation can prevent much of this from |
| suffer from severe emotional trauma that can affect | | | | happening. Parents are taught to negotiate between |
| their lives for many years to come. | | | | each other in a civilized manner, paving the way for |
| Relying on the lawyers to sort out the situation is | | | | co-parenting after the divorce. Child custody issues are |
| grossly unfair to the children. Most divorce lawyers are | | | | discussed between the divorce mediator and the |
| only interested in getting the best deal for their client. | | | | parents putting the child's interests first before their |
| Their job is not to be a mediator between the two | | | | own. |
| warring parties except to attempt to wring out as | | | | Teaching parents to avoid dissension between them |
| much as they can for their client and in the custody | | | | and sending a positive message to the children that |
| battle get the child or children for their client. | | | | calm and reasoned discussion to resolve issues is the |
| A divorce mediator who is a trained person, often with | | | | better way to go. Children caught up in heavy |
| a degree in psychology and psychotherapeutic skills | | | | dissension between parents learn that conflict is the |
| together with legal skills of an attorney would be a far | | | | normal way to behave, because children imitate their |
| better option to consider. | | | | parents behavior. |
| These co-mediators are especially trained to protect | | | | When your situation reaches the stage that divorce is |
| and safeguard the best interests of the children, and at | | | | the only option, consider work with a divorce mediator |
| the same time mediate between the parents for the | | | | who will deal with the child custody situation with |
| fair division of the combined effects of the parents. | | | | compassion and understanding. And help you to find |
| Litigation often forces parents to become adversaries | | | | solutions to dealing with a divorced state and creating |
| where the children become objects instead of hurting, | | | | a win, win situation for all parties involved in a divorce |
| feeling little humans. Each parent fighting to 'own' their | | | | and child custody dispute. |
| child, they will go to extreme lengths to turn the child | | | | |