| If you feel that you have been trying to be a super | | | | You may have been the one who set the rules in the |
| mom, forget that! Your child parenting journey will be | | | | house but you should still listen to your kids' point of |
| much happier and more enjoyable if you are willing to | | | | view. Being receptive to their opinions does not mean |
| relax and learn along the way. Be prepared to change | | | | that you are a weak parent. It only indicates your |
| your perceptions and believes as you go along. There | | | | willingness to understand them better and that will |
| are bound to be parenting problems as your child | | | | actually help to strengthen your bond with your children. |
| grows up from baby stage to toddler stage to | | | | Of course, this is more for older kids who are more |
| teenagers and even when they are adults. You just | | | | likely to want to have a say in their lives but for your |
| get different sets of problems, that's all so quit trying to | | | | younger kids you may just want to stick to your rules |
| be perfect! | | | | and make sure they follow them. |
| Nevertheless, there are 10 vital tips that can help you | | | | 5. Abstain From Physical Punishment |
| solve your parenting problems and make your child | | | | Gone are the days when parents use physical |
| parenting journey less stressful. | | | | punishment to enforce a rule on their children. Studies |
| 1. Exercise Positive Encouragement | | | | have shown that children who have grown up under |
| Very often, parents tend to focus their attention on | | | | such harsh environment are more likely to grow up into |
| correcting their children's mistakes and in their | | | | uncontrollable and aggressive individuals. It is a more |
| eagerness, they forget to praise their kids for the good | | | | effective child parenting model to teach your children |
| behaviours. This is a big mistake as the child will not | | | | with love and reasoning rather than through physical |
| know what he has done wrong and the good | | | | punishment. Should any of your kids break a rule, you |
| behaviour cannot be enforced if it is not being | | | | can make them clean up the mess or take away a |
| encouraged! As parents, it is vital that you do not | | | | privilege. |
| simply scold you children when they misbehave but | | | | 6. Creating A Stable Home Environment |
| you should also be on the look out for their good | | | | Before you explain your rules and punishments to your |
| behaviours too. It will show your kids that you not only | | | | children, discuss them with your spouse or partner first. |
| know and want to correct what they have done | | | | This is to ensure that there would not be any |
| wrong but also appreciate their good behaviours too. | | | | discrepancies when you are enforcing these rules. |
| As the mother of a pair of twin toddlers, I try to be | | | | Having a stable home environment will be less |
| more observant when I am with them. I will not hesitate | | | | confusing for your kids. |
| to stop my boy and will also scold him gently when he | | | | 7. Be Fair |
| pushes his twin sister or hits her. On the other hand, on | | | | It is vital that you try to be as fair as possible, not only |
| the occasions when he expresses love for his sister | | | | in your day-to-day rules but in your treatment to your |
| by hugging and kissing her or sharing his food with her | | | | different children as well. You cannot accept a |
| on his own accord, I don't forget to praise him excitedly | | | | misbehaviour one day but punish your child for the |
| too. In this way, he learns the right and wrong | | | | same behaviour another day. That will only confuse |
| behaviours. | | | | your kids. Similarly, if you are unfair in your treatment |
| 2. Schedule Personal Time For Each Of Your Kid | | | | among the children, it will only breed contempt and stir |
| To be effective in child parenting, it is important that | | | | up sibling rivalry. |
| you build bond with your children and the best way to | | | | 8. Set Good Role Models |
| do it is none other than to spend time with each of | | | | A very effective child parenting model is to set a good |
| them every day. You can set aside 30 minutes each | | | | role model for your kids. Although it is definitely not |
| day or at least 2 hours each week for a personal time. | | | | possible to be a perfect parent, at least show your |
| This is the period when you can talk to your kids about | | | | kids that you practice healthy living in your life too. |
| their day but make sure you do not get interrupted by | | | | 9. Show Respect For Your Children |
| phone calls or any other forms of distractions. If your | | | | Even though your kids may be young, they deserved |
| kids are still very young, you can have family time | | | | to be respected! If you respect your right from the |
| together when both parents get play, sing and talk to | | | | start, they will grow to respect you too. |
| your kids. You can use the time to read them a story | | | | 10. Be Supportive |
| before they sleep. Don't forget to show your love for | | | | As a parent, you are everything to your children so it is |
| your children by giving them lots of love, hugs and | | | | important that you are supportive for them. This is |
| kisses. | | | | especially vital when they come home to you after |
| 3. State Clear Rules | | | | meeting with some difficulties at school or when they |
| It is vital that your children are clear about your rules | | | | got themselves into some trouble. Never sneer at |
| and expectations. You have to explain your rules so | | | | them or reply them with a "I told you so!" when they |
| that all of them understand what they can and cannot | | | | approach you for advice and support or you will lose |
| do. You may even have to use very simple terms for | | | | your children forever! |
| very young kids. Many parents face parenting | | | | Child parenting is an everyday challenge but the above |
| problems because they do not make their rules clear | | | | 10 tips will help you a long way in solving your parenting |
| to their children and yet they get upset when a rule is | | | | problems. Remember, if you feel that you are at wits |
| broken. | | | | end, do not feel shy in seeking professional help. |
| 4. Be Receptive | | | | |