| STRESS FREE MANAGING OF STRESSED | | | | young child to a new environment. Stay with the child, if |
| CHILDREN & TEENAGERS IN PARENTING | | | | possible, at first until the child is reasonably familiar with |
| Parents' child related stress extends to coping with | | | | it. |
| children's. Child stress is very common. | | | | Children’s fear of the dark is because one can |
| Pregnancy rates high on the official stress-scale and | | | | best concentrate then. The child's imagination comes |
| mothers sometimes suffer also 'baby blues'. But, also, | | | | into play about a horror movie or scary story. Teach |
| parents have to be alert to child stress symptoms and | | | | the child to slightly open his eyes and concentrate on |
| cope with their children’s stress –as well as to | | | | something in the bedroom. A night light helps reduce |
| avoid becoming stressful themselves in doing so. This | | | | such child stress. |
| is common in parenting. | | | | If separation or re-marriage has taken place, that may |
| Parents did not use to have advice on child stress. | | | | be the cause of the child’s stress surfacing in the |
| National and international help and guidance to parents | | | | form of fear of the dark. Talk to the child, explain, |
| in child rearing and welfare only became available after | | | | assure. |
| the second world war. Parts of Africa and Asia | | | | (But, if the child says that he can't see well enough in |
| entered the 21st century with help mostly, often only, | | | | the dark, it may be night blindness often caused by |
| from religious and charitable organizations. In western | | | | vitamin 'A' deficiency [eggs, cheese, whole milk -or |
| countries the UNICEF’s international efforts only | | | | cooked carrots]). |
| gained generality in practice in the 1950s (when it was | | | | Also pubescence related guilt can cause child stress. |
| first theorised by Selye as the body’s [i.e., | | | | Assure the child that it is normal and part of growing |
| physiological] reaction when threat or danger is felt -a | | | | up. |
| general adaptation syndrome which exceptionally at its | | | | Many teenagers suffer from child stress. Be a good |
| most extreme is capable of leading to a nervous | | | | listener to the teenager sufferers of stress. Show that |
| breakdown). There had not been any parenting advice | | | | you do understand. Don't talk down, do not make light |
| on child stress. The parents' job in dealing with child | | | | of teenagers’ dating problems. Teenagers like to |
| stress is not easy. | | | | be taken seriously and to be trusted. |
| >>This is the gist of the generally agreed | | | | Child stress is caused, both, the younger children and |
| suggestions on child stress which may help... | | | | the teenagers also by what they regard as failure. On |
| A baby is born with fears: fear of falling and fear of | | | | achievement oriented tasks, it is important in parenting |
| noise. A child, right from the beginning, is susceptible to | | | | to ensure to explain a child or that it is okay to try |
| stress in those respects. This continues until the baby | | | | again. |
| gets generally used to noise and learns to walk. | | | | These are the views of the experts on child stress. In |
| Young children may not have the vocabulary to | | | | parenting bear them in mind. |
| express their fears. Teenagers feel misunderstood or | | | | >>Coping with child stress may cause stress also |
| have other sounding boards. In parenting these make a | | | | to parents. Parents can not as easily cope with their |
| child’s stress, or the symptoms of child stress, | | | | children suffering from child stress if they themselves |
| difficult to notice. | | | | become stress sufferers. |
| Additionally, some child stress symptoms are | | | | Experts’ advice in parenting on easier coping with |
| unrecognisably mild. | | | | child stress is this: The adults raising children, first, |
| Stress is caused, mostly, by a feeling of being unable | | | | should try to avoid stress for themselves. In parenting, |
| to cope. This is so also in child stress. This feeling often | | | | especially if already having to cope with child stress, do |
| arises from a situation the child is not used to and | | | | rest. If at home, rest mid-morning. If you are at home |
| develops into child stress. Assure stressed children, | | | | and parenting young children, you should rest also for |
| and help. | | | | half an hour after lunch, or an hour before children |
| Mild child stress also has symptoms. It may be in the | | | | return home. |
| form of irritability or mood changes on the part of the | | | | If you cannot cope well, or if child stress appears |
| child. This may indicate lack of protein or | | | | severe, do consult a parenting or child stress expert. |
| carbohydrates (potatoes, pulses, sugar -fruits). Lack of | | | | Child stress is often contributed to because the |
| these often causes mild stress. A stressed child may | | | | parents ‘don’t understand’ the child. Don’t |
| be lacking those. | | | | simply criticise or forbid children. Explain. Make |
| Withdrawal indicates severe child stress. The stressed | | | | allowance for the child’s age. Do not assume that |
| child may be being bullied. | | | | having told the child ‘a million times’ the child |
| Child stress symptoms vary as the child grows up. | | | | necessarily understood or even that can, yet, |
| Being difficult indicates unsatisfied creativity. Enable | | | | understand what an adult can. It may lessen a |
| difficult children creativity. Obsession or compulsion | | | | child’s stress sometimes for parents to recall their |
| often is a guilt feeling. It may tempt to guilt | | | | own childhood... |
| transference. Suggest symbolic gestures, deeds to rid | | | | (Verse by teacher the late Orhan Seyfi Ari...) |
| of it. These kinds of child stress are more suffered by | | | | "Sometimes such fools we were, sometimes smart |
| children after they cease to be babies. | | | | kids |
| Babies dislike being alone and my suffer child stress. | | | | Sometimes Satan's tools, sometimes with saintly |
| Be within sight as their protector. | | | | deeds" |
| Similarly, it causes the younger child stress if the child is | | | | A site with also views on educational parenting of |
| alone in an unfamiliar environment. Accompany a | | | | hailed Teacher Ari orhanseyfiari. |