| Parents often become extremely frustrated with their | | | | child. |
| child when they fail to live up to the parent's | | | | Children are not born with manners. They have to be |
| expectations. Parents may be come angry and put | | | | taught, just as we were. The easiest, and probably |
| the fault of these unmet expectations on the shoulders | | | | most effective way of teaching a behavior is by role |
| of the child. This is unfair because in most cases the | | | | modeling the desired behaviors ourselves. If you want |
| child was set up for failure. Not intentionally by any | | | | to teach a child good manners, simply use them |
| means, it was probably the parent's inability to | | | | yourself. This type of teaching is great for children with |
| communicate the expectations clearly. | | | | behavior disorders. There is no lengthy list of directions. |
| Parents have to learn how to communicate just as a | | | | It can be difficult to articulate behaviors into words. |
| child does. This may sound ridiculous, but as adults we | | | | When verbal communication is necessary, it must be |
| are accustomed to speaking to people who probably | | | | delivered in a manner appropriate for the child's age |
| have the same goals and expectations as we do. | | | | and mentality. Give specific instructions related to the |
| When speaking to children, we have to remember | | | | task. Do not leave the child with the task of deciding |
| they do not have our expansive vocabularies or life | | | | what your instructions may have meant. |
| experiences to rely on. Children struggling with | | | | Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your |
| behavioral disorders are also faced with limited | | | | child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using |
| attention spans and the inability to retain a lot of | | | | Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or |
| information. These situations need to be taken into | | | | Rewards? |
| consideration when a parent is communicating to the | | | | |