Could Your Child Have a Behaviour Problem?

Behaviour problems are frequently overlookedproblem. Just remove the source of distress to the
It's difficult to spot a behaviour problem in its earlychild, i.e. change the environment, or pinpoint the source
stages. Parents are usually extremely apprehensiveof stress and remove it. Followed with proper support,
when dealing with their children, but their first responsethe behaviour problem could be resolved.
to a real problem is usually a heavy dose of denial. OnNaturally, remedying a behaviour problem won't usually
the other hand, childcare practitioners may not havebe such a simple task. In such cases, it is important to
enough time alone with a child to realise that ahelp the child understand what is and is not acceptable
behaviour problem is forming.behaviour. Set limits to help the child determine the
To top it off, almost all children will exhibit symptoms oftypes of acceptable behaviour, so the child knows
a behaviour problem, usually as part of a developmentwhen he is behaving inappropriately. It is important that
stage the child is going through. Temper tantrums,children understand the reasons behind the limits. If they
shyness, moodiness, even violent behaviour; which childcontinue to behave inappropriately despite
doesn't act like this from time to time? Early signs of aunderstanding the reasons, the child may require
behaviour problem could be easily dismissed, as "everyfurther intervention from professionals.
kid does it", or "the Terrible Twos", etc.Besides setting limits, give the child choices, and time to
It's when challenging behaviours become prevalent andrespond to those choices as well as to think about
severe that a behaviour problem truly exists. Forwhat they did or said,. This will help them learn to
example:-control their behaviour and realise what type of
* Children may occasionally strike another child, but if abehaviour is acceptable. Make sure you don't set too
child has a problem with handling anger that is notmany rules or choices for young children though, as
properly addressed, an aggressive behaviour problemyou may confuse them.
may form. The child could begin to irrationally attackAnd don't forget!
others, in other words striking out merely on impulse.Always remember to focus on the behaviour, not the
* It is normal for children to go through a biting stage,child, otherwise the child may develop a poor
but if this stage is not contained and discontinued, theself-image. When dealing with children, it is common for
child may develop a behavioural problem involvinga lot of frustration to be involved whether or not a
frequently biting others.behaviour problem exists; always be patient and
It is also important to note that behaviour problems canunderstanding. And never give in just to keep the child
crop up from as early as around 18 months of age.quiet, this will teach the child that reacting negatively will
Why do behaviour problems arise?get him attention/his way.
Behaviour problems can be a result of a setting whichIt's very important that children with behavioural
the child is uncomfortable with. This is of course highlyproblems are not approached with an attitude of "just
dependent upon the child. Too much noise, thetreat them like any other child and maybe the problem
presence of a particular person, a certain kind of smell,will go away on its own". Problems have to be
these are all liable to set a particular child off.addressed properly, so that progress can be made.
It could also be the result of the child's emotional needsOtherwise, the child's condition will only worsen, causing
going unanswered, in which case the problem will beginunhappiness to not only those around the child, but to
to arise in all settings. Where emotional distress isthe child himself.
involved, the child is more likely to hurt himself or evenIt's sad to watch a child's development go downhill
other children, and as such warrants carefulbecause of a behavioural problem which isn't properly
observation.addressed. Has anyone come across a case, or a
How to deal with itsuspected case of behavioural problems in a child?
Of course, this makes it seem easy to solve thePlease voice out your thoughts!