| Defiant children only grow into an out of control | | | | of the reason why the child misbehaved in the first |
| situation later on in life if they are not dealt with | | | | place. This is paramount to understanding your childs |
| immediately. Dependable discipline to discourage | | | | behavior. Consequences alone cannot teach your child |
| defiance is what is needed when parenting disobedient | | | | values or self discipline. Consequences without |
| children. Otherwise they will grow into a defiant kid or | | | | guidance is useless and ineffective. |
| teen. They can be more than a handful. They often | | | | An extension of being careful and objective with |
| feel that they are the untold rebel hero of kids verses | | | | consequences is: Knowing the Reason Why Your |
| the parents. | | | | Child Misbehaves is so very important it cannot be |
| Parents of defiant children likely feel overwhelmed and | | | | understated. The better you are able to understand |
| defeated when it comes to managing their child. It can | | | | the true cause for the defiant misbehavior, the better |
| be draining to look after children who always cause | | | | and more able you are to handle the child effectively. |
| trouble. Its so easy for them to get into trouble. Not so | | | | The positive result will not happen without this. This one |
| easy to clean up afterward. Defiant behavior is | | | | is just as important if not more so than consistency. |
| something that should never be tolerated and it should | | | | Lets aim for equality on this issue. |
| also be made clear in the most specific way possible. | | | | Unconditional Love and Support. Thoughtful Loving |
| In order to squash the defiant behavior successfully | | | | Care is and always should be Unconditional. It can |
| you will need to use effective discipline techniques. | | | | often be hard to get along with difficult and defiant |
| Here are some of the most crucial components of | | | | children. It is just not easy to like them and you must |
| discouraging defiance by using reliable discipline you | | | | keep in mind that this extends outside of the family. So |
| can depend on. | | | | if you are there for them it will make a big impact on |
| These first three are in order of importance. | | | | how they react to your requests. To put this simply if |
| Consistent, Clear, and Fair. Effective discipline | | | | you are there for them they will know this and want to |
| techniques are always Directly Clear, Consistent, and | | | | be there for you. You catch more flies with honey |
| Fair. This should be always be accompanied by praise | | | | comes to mind. But to put it in a much better |
| and encouragement towards behavior that we would | | | | perspective happy well treated employees will often |
| enjoy seeing them adopt on a more permanent basis. | | | | want to go the extra mile. Mainly because they feel a |
| Consistency is an absolute must. You should never | | | | part of something and want to give back. This is what |
| back down for any reason. Consistency is the most | | | | we aim for, this is what good parenting is all about. |
| important which is why its first. The others are equally | | | | So for your dependable discipline to discourage |
| important however by not being consistent they all lose | | | | defiance you will need to exercise these skills |
| value. | | | | consistently. When parents are raising disobedient |
| The next is something many parents do mainly | | | | children it becomes very important to understand why |
| because its human nature. | | | | children behave the way that they do. You do not |
| Being Careful with Consequences. Consequences | | | | want to dole out consequences without value support |
| should be at the ready and never delivered in anger or | | | | or any understanding of why your children are acting |
| the heat of the moment. The best discipline methods | | | | out. It has a negative affect in place of a constructive |
| should be very Careful with Consequences. Before | | | | effect. |
| giving out any Consequences at all please be certain | | | | |