| In life, there is no substitute for, Direct Experience and | | | | Anxiety or even combinations of these it may go |
| parenting is no different. You have t0 be there,(directly) | | | | unnoticed at first. There is no one person to blame, this |
| both to discipline, shape, and direct your child's behavior, | | | | kind of thing does happen naturally, every case is |
| as well as getting to know them. You need to be a | | | | different. |
| major part of your child's life. It can be very difficult, | | | | Sometimes parents refuse to admit to themselves or |
| especially when working full time but with a good plan | | | | have trouble coming to terms with the reality of the |
| in place, you can be sure that the time you do spend is | | | | situation their child and they themselves are in. Usually, |
| of good quality and effective. It is vital, that you be | | | | once they begin to understand and have had time |
| there, at least some of the time, each and every day. | | | | alone with the child they process the information |
| This is something that I call Direct Parenting with | | | | appropriately. Remarkably, it is these very types of |
| Positive Discipline and it is a good beginning. | | | | parents that demonstrate complete capability and dive |
| Trying to identify and find the solution for the behavior | | | | into the work of direct parenting with positive discipline |
| is not easy but is essential and very necessary. You | | | | with enthusiasm and full force. They get caught up in |
| will need to be certain for the reason behind the | | | | the work and meet every need they see that is |
| behavior.This is part of your responsibility as a parent. | | | | needed. |
| Otherwise, the wrong treatments or expectations can | | | | Discipline is important for every child and must be |
| be imposed and this is why some parents find their | | | | measured in accordance to the individual child and |
| techniques ineffective. | | | | those specific needs. This is why there is no black and |
| There are so many factors in play when it comes to | | | | white, or one size fits all solution when it comes to |
| children and their behaviors. Too many in fact, children | | | | children and discipline. You would not treat or impose |
| misbehave in as many ways and as varied and | | | | the same boundaries to a hyperactive child that you |
| diverse, as the individual child. How they behave is | | | | would say a clinically depressed child. It would not |
| particular to each child individually, according to their | | | | make any sense and would not be effective in any |
| character. However, the 'why' children misbehave is | | | | way. Children need individual sets of boundaries and |
| more easily collected. The reasons are easily | | | | guidelines for their own needs but the behaviors that |
| organized through general categories. Some believe | | | | we aim for remain stable. |
| there are only four general reasons for misbehavior. | | | | After dealing with out of control children or a child with |
| Stating that when they misbehave it is to get attention, | | | | behavior problems, it can be difficult for some parents |
| to get back(revenge), to get power, and to display their | | | | to believe this but the truth is, children actually want to |
| own shortcomings and inadequacies. I disagree for the | | | | behave. A large part of how you will figure this out |
| most part. | | | | involves being there directly, no ifs, ands, or buts about |
| Although, I believe this is a good start but there are | | | | it. Take part in the punishment with your child if |
| many more and even more important reasons for the | | | | necessary. If you do not have time MAKE TIME, it is |
| misbehavior. It may not be as things seem. The cause | | | | that simple. |
| of the behavior, the actual source of what drives | | | | Good, positive discipline actually allows children to feel |
| behavior, needs to be determined and this can be | | | | safe and provides them with security. Learning how to |
| difficult, especially in the beginning. When a parent finds | | | | use what I call, "Direct Parenting with Positive |
| out they have a special needs child, they usually do not | | | | Discipline", is what will engage you to your child and |
| find out until the toddler years and sometimes even | | | | bring you closer. Having a set plan is crucial. |
| later in life. It is all depending on the condition and when | | | | Consistency is very important in parenting with Positive |
| the symptoms began or begin to show themselves. | | | | discipline, is the key to finding any kind of reward from |
| Under recognizing certain situations or sensitivities your | | | | providing the necessary control. Once this becomes a |
| child has, means they are obviously under treated too. | | | | part of your everyday routine you will eventual begin |
| This also means they are a lot less responsible or at | | | | to see the progress you and your child makes. Then |
| least responsible in a different light, for the behavior. If | | | | the whole family will run smoother and find time for |
| your child has Attention deficit, Hyperactivity disorder, | | | | more happiness, in better behavior. |