Goals and Expectations - Personal Lessons and Revelations - Working With an Autistic Child

"In the hopes of reaching the moon men fail to see theoff in mid air.
flowers that blossom at their feet".I sang songs with the children and offered him musical
Albert Schweitzerinstruments and though the instruments didn't seem to
In relationships, both personal and professional it'sring his bell, he started making new sounds. Perhaps
important to be conscious of our goals andlike an infant these were preliminary before Jay could
expectations. It's also a good idea to honestly assessform and utter words. I continued to mimic his noises
the present and the past. How else can we establishand sometimes the children copied me, which seemed
reference points, of where we were and where areto startle Jay, but at least he seemed to take note.
now? Too often we focus on the future; what weThese were all huge differences. But I didn't know how
want, have yet to attain, on our unrealized dreams. Wemuch Jay understood because I hadn't found a
forget to take stock and credit the positive changelanguage we both understood.
and growth that has occurred.One day Jay climbed up on the table and began to
This article is the continues the story I started "Lettingtwirl around. It wasn't climbing time. There were other
Go to Think Outside the Box; Insights and aactivities going on in the room. As I approached him to
Breakthrough with an Autistic Child".get him off the table, he reached over placing his arms
Jay was a nine year old boy with autism. I beganon my shoulders. It was almost as if he wanted to hug
working with Jay in the Child Life program I wasme. That was a change too. He was touching me. But
directing at Bronx Lebanon Hospital. He was broughtinstead of a hug he lay limp, slung over my back. Dead
into the hospital for evaluation and kept there on a childweight Jay was heavy, and I began to feel like a
protective hold. The hospital became Jays' fosterhuman jungle gym. "No, you mustn't hang on me" I said
home and after months of unsuccessfully trying totrying to help him down from the table. He got really
reach him, I discovered a way into his self containedupset stamping his feet, biting his hand, and hitting his
world; by singing African chants. As a member of thehead. I was surprised at his fierce reaction, that he
Social Work department I met daily with his casewas so emotive. He placed his hands on my shoulders
worker and our team of specialists to review andagain and started to lean forward. I placed one hand
develop an extensive treatment plan for Jay. Weon his chest and my other hand on his back and
found a school program and enrolled him for half-daybegan singing "Ay Bo Bo" which is another African
sessions. When summer came we even arranged forchant. While I sang I patted a rhythmic phrase on his
him to go to summer camp. His teachers andbody. When I stopped he reached over my shoulder
counselors noted "significant gains" in their progressand repeated the sequence, patting on my back what I
reports. But I was discouraged when Jay came intojust finished patting on his! He seemed pleased with
the playroom during the afternoons because he stillhimself and climbed down from the table. I was beside
maintained his self stimulating repertoire of behaviors;myself! Now we were talking...
rattling, twirling, shaking, and chewing on everything. ITwice this had happened; Jay responded to the
couldn't figure out how to bridge the gap between ourAfrican chants hearing the sounds, and feeling the
worlds; so I could begin to teach him...beat; auditory tonal and kinesthetic learning processes.
At some point I probed deeper, cross examiningHe was telling me he understood, by talking to me with
myself. "Teach him what? "What do you expect Jayhis hands. And when I thought back he understood my
to do? Are you waiting for him to say something?one word commands especially when I was teaching
Have you overlooked the bigger picture? What is hehim to climb like, "up" "down" "sit" "bend" and "jump"
doing today that he wasn't doing six months ago"?because I moved his body while I spoke these simple
The most obvious change was that he was in theone syllable instructions.
playroom with other children! And without prompting heIn 2010 we now know that children with autism or
was sitting near or next to them. When I first broughtautism spectrum disorder have auditory processing
Jay to the playroom he ran around in circles, oblivious.problems. They may be able to hear speech sounds
Sometimes he'd retreat under the tables, or huddle inbut not perceive the meaning of the sounds; the words
the corner. Now he seemed interested in what theand what they mean.
children were doing, sitting intently watching them play.I left New York City in 1985. I recommended that Jay's
When I reorganized the room and set up a grossteachers try teaching him sign language, or create a
motor obstacle course he moved independentlysystem of tonal signals in combination with physical
negotiating different levels and planes. Previously Ipatterning. How would you proceed?
needed to supervise him closely, so he wouldn't step