| Bad parenting practices are responsible for all the | | | | to make good decisions on which to build their lives. A |
| problems with children and teenagers today so say | | | | Child has to learn that she cannot have or do |
| some of today's press. They suggest that it's the way | | | | everything she wants. If you give into your child |
| parents have raised their children that is to blame for | | | | because of tantrums and whining then you are |
| all sorts of issues and problems in today's society. | | | | teaching her that this is the correct way to get |
| Could this be true? | | | | whatever you want. It can be very easy to give in |
| It's difficult to prove this one way or the other, as we | | | | especially when you are tired but it is important that |
| cannot control all the other variables associated with | | | | you are consistent. Inconsistency is one of our |
| verifying this. So instead of looking at the problems let's | | | | greatest enemies and sends a child the completely |
| look at what we can do to help prevent our children | | | | wrong message. |
| becoming someone that the media writes about. | | | | The way we train or allow our children to respond to |
| Everyone is shaped by the way they are parented, | | | | boundaries or discipline will affect the rest of their lives. |
| their peers and the media. What most parents want is | | | | We should never link boundaries or discipline with our |
| to have well balanced children who know how to say | | | | child receiving or not receiving love from us. Our child |
| "yes" to the good and "no" to the bad. We need to | | | | need to know that she does not loose love when she |
| start while our children are still young to do this. | | | | disagrees with us, others or has her own ideas. |
| What is good parenting? | | | | Discipline |
| Good parenting is guiding our children and helping them | | | | What is discipline? To some people the word discipline |
| to become the people they were meant to be. It is not | | | | gives them a very negative feeling. Discipline is in fact |
| emotionally badgering her into being the perfect child or | | | | an external boundary, designed to develop internal |
| clone of one of her parents. It's also definitely not | | | | boundaries and behavior. Discipline involves teaching, |
| about leaving her without any guidance or boundaries | | | | prevention and instruction. It provides structure in life |
| at all. | | | | and helps a child to develop into a responsible adult |
| All parents want to keep their children safe and make | | | | who understands right from wrong. |
| them feel secure. But they also have to teach them | | | | Good parenting involves both teaching her how to |
| how to make good choices for themselves and allow | | | | develop self discipline, which is prevention, as well as |
| them the freedom in which to do this. To do this we | | | | showing that her actions result in certain outcomes. |
| need to create a place where our children feel both | | | | These consequences are intended to increase a child's |
| loved and secure. A child will feel secure when she | | | | sense of responsibility and control over her own life. A |
| has boundaries set, within which she can grow and | | | | child needs to be taught to take responsibility for her |
| also knows she's loved and that this love does not | | | | own actions and parents need to train her to do this |
| depend on what she does. Because of this we should | | | | for herself. |
| never link boundaries or discipline with our child | | | | Discipline and boundaries are something that children |
| receiving or not receiving love from us. She needs to | | | | need and we do not help our children by withholding |
| know that she does not lose love when she disagrees | | | | them. |
| with us or has her own ideas. | | | | Good parenting is not always easy and all parents will |
| Boundaries | | | | make mistakes so do not give yourself a hard time |
| Children are not born with boundaries they have to | | | | when this happens but instead be prepared to learn |
| develop them. Parents need to set boundaries to give | | | | from the experience. |
| their children the information they need to enable them | | | | |