| We'd all like to be as strong as George Lopez, as | | | | for medium rule breaches and the last for significant |
| consistent as Super Nanny, and as selfless as Harry | | | | missteps. The jobs can range from sweeping out the |
| Potter's mom Lily. In truth, most parents offer a | | | | garage to washing a set of windows inside and out. |
| reasonably balanced mix of setting limits for their kids | | | | This works best when you have the kids create the |
| and letting them make choices. They make rules to | | | | jobs list. Then, when they pull out a task they have to |
| create structure but use flexible consequences to | | | | complete, they're not surprised by what they find. |
| respond to real situations. Great parents pick their | | | | As parents, you want to do everything you can to |
| battles and use positive humor to transform an | | | | maintain a strong sense of self confidence at every |
| impending storm into a learning opportunity. They have | | | | stage of your child's growth. When you feel good |
| fun with their kids and share common goals as a | | | | about yourself you can take time to appreciate each |
| family. | | | | of your children's special qualities. Give your kids |
| Many parents have experienced those disturbing | | | | insights about how to cope with life effectively. Teach |
| moments when they become uncharacteristically | | | | your kids how to be good listeners and self assured |
| threatening, push their kids too hard to excel, or say | | | | problem solvers. You can show them how to maintain |
| something that injures their child's self esteem. On the | | | | a sense of self worth by demonstrating those qualities |
| flip side, parents feel overwhelmed at times and can | | | | yourself, even when you are under stress. One easy |
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| themselves. Make a list of seven things you can do for | | | | One frazzled dad noted: "Children today are tyrants. |
| yourself that take 30 minutes or so to accomplish and | | | | They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and |
| take a half hour everyday to revive your sprit. Listen | | | | tyrannize their teachers." That quote comes from |
| to a relaxing CD, walk in a nearby park, stop for a cup | | | | Socrates who lived from 470-399 BCE. It's comforting |
| of your favorite coffee and read, workout, dance, | | | | to know that parents have always faced challenges |
| watch a funny TV show...you get the idea. Taking time | | | | when raising their children. Look for parenting |
| for yourself not only helps you stay centered, it | | | | resources on the web and in your local bookstores. |
| teaches your kids an important lesson about self care, | | | | Share stories and strategies with other parents. It |
| something they'll understand best when they are adults. | | | | doesn't matter if you are a single parent, married or |
| Try proactive instead of reactive consequences. | | | | bringing kids up in a multigenerational household, great |
| Rather than taking things away from your kids or | | | | parenting starts from the inside. Take care of yourself |
| grounding them, create action oriented penalties. A job | | | | so you have the energy you need to nurture your kids. |
| jar is one great way to keep everyone moving | | | | Your insight and caring today multiplies over the years |
| toward improved behavior. You might even try three | | | | and opens the door to your child's happy future. |
| jars. You can have one for small infractions, another | | | | |