| There are always alternatives to disciplining defiant | | | | will feel like he or she has "no say at all", and the child |
| children ages 3-12 without using Punishments, | | | | will rebel. |
| Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards. The aim of | | | | Secondly, make sure that you give your 3-12 year old |
| this article is to teach parents how to get their children | | | | ample warning about what is going to happen next, at |
| to follow directions without of the "hype" and nonsense | | | | least 10 minutes before hand. Actually the most the |
| that is taught out there today. | | | | most effective way to handle these transition times is |
| First it is always important to give your 3-12 year old | | | | by using the 10 minute, 5 minute, 1 minute, then GO |
| choices. How exactly do I do that? The best way to | | | | system. |
| balance this concept of choice giving is to give two | | | | This method simply is done by giving a child a warning |
| choices that you are perfectly okay with no matter | | | | 10 minutes, then another one at 5 minutes. Finally give |
| what he or she picks. Do your best to pick two | | | | one last warning to wrap up at the one minute make, |
| choices that will balance what he/she is allowed to do | | | | and then GO. This method should eliminate about 75% |
| with what the child would enjoy doing. | | | | of most resistance from moving from one activity to |
| Why is giving two choices so important? This is so | | | | the next. |
| important to do because giving too many choices and | | | | In conclusion, raising defiant children can be a very |
| your child will become overwhelmed by having to pick. | | | | difficult task. |
| If you do not give enough choices your 3-12 year old | | | | |