| Are you experiencing aggressive behavior in your | | | | they will act that way in the future. Imagine, if you will, a |
| 3-year-old? Is your 3-year-old calling all the shots? Do | | | | 3 yr old quietly piecing a puzzle together or even |
| you feel exhausted and just don't know what else to | | | | playing a video game. She/he has almost completed |
| do? If your answer is yes, and I bet it is... As you | | | | the puzzle/game but cannot get the final pieces/play |
| continue reading this article, you will learn how to end | | | | to come together. |
| the power struggles, the aggressiveness and gain | | | | -Throughout this quiet half an hour the parent has been |
| back control over your child behavior. | | | | around but has said absolutely nothing. Nothing, that is |
| Majority of children are not able recognize their own | | | | until the child becomes obviously frustrated and throws |
| strength or even the full consequences of their actions; | | | | the puzzle/game across the room and begins |
| and in a world where they are often being told what | | | | screaming or swearing loudly. At this point the parent |
| to do, where to go and how to behave, it does not | | | | intervenes by reprimanding the child and sending him |
| seem all that unreasonable that they may sometimes | | | | her to their room. You know where I am going with this |
| need to speak out and be heard. | | | | right? |
| -As you may already know, controlling feelings and | | | | -It would appear that the parent has done everything |
| emotions is a learned skill and can be very difficult to | | | | appropriate in this situation, except for the fact that the |
| master in some adults, let alone children. For whatever | | | | only attention this child received during the time period |
| reason your 3 yr old throw the outburst, one thing to | | | | was negative. If this is commonly the case, the child |
| always keep in mind is to not interact with power and | | | | may begin to feel that any attention is better than no |
| anger of any sort or you will end up with a child that is | | | | attention and as a result may continue to act out |
| very defensive and will fight whatever you ask him not | | | | disruptively in daily activities. |
| to do. | | | | -When dealing with aggressive children, it is worth the |
| -The good news is there are better ways to deal with | | | | effort to praise even the smallest attempt at proper |
| this kind of aggressiveness that can create a win-win | | | | behavior, while paying very little if any attention to |
| situation for both of you using proper child | | | | negative conduct. Praise can be a very strong |
| management methods. Nagging or punishing children | | | | motivator. |
| for acting aggressively can make it more likely that | | | | |