| It's not a car and it's not easy to fix behaviour! The | | | | One mistaken way to fix behavior is when parents |
| main problem with behaviour is that there is a lack of | | | | identify the child with the bad behaviour and they |
| co-ordination between home and school and different | | | | become one and the same thing. The child is identified |
| standards and behavior plans (if any) are being | | | | as being 'bad' but the behaviour is glossed over or |
| followed or not being followed. My first piece of advice | | | | ignored. A much more effective way is to talk it |
| is to have a meeting at school with the teachers and | | | | through with the child. You can separate the feelings |
| ensure that certain behaviors are going to result in | | | | of anger, defiance and aggression and examine with |
| consequences. This will be hopefully consistent with | | | | him calmly what he has actually done. It is also pretty |
| your own behaviour plan at home. If your child has | | | | useless to say something like 'those feelings are |
| ADHD or ODD, make sure that an IEP (Individual | | | | wrong'. A better way is to suggest ways of doing it |
| Educational program) is in place if that is provided by | | | | differently the next time that little incident happens. |
| the education authorities in your state (Human | | | | Learning these ways to fix behaviour is not as difficult |
| Services Department). | | | | as it may sound. It is not necessary either to have long |
| How do you fix behavior when the child is becoming | | | | expensive counselling sessions. A much cheaper and |
| increasingly defiant and aggressive at both home and | | | | more effective way is to follow the guidelines by one |
| school ? Age may be a factor as hormonal changes | | | | of the most famous behaviour therapists in the USA |
| at puberty can have a negative impact on the child's | | | | who can help you fix behavior with an ADHD child, |
| behavior and cause an increase in aggressive | | | | defiant kids, lying and bullying children and all the other |
| behavior. This is a classic case where the parents can | | | | problems associated with child behaviour at home and |
| intervene and make sure he has an outlet for his | | | | at school. By following a course in child behavior |
| anger in energetic sports or outdoor green activities. In | | | | problems you will be helping your child to grow up as a |
| this way he can attack objects (a punchball is good | | | | responsible adult. |
| too) rather than people! | | | | |