| Parents who say "I want to transform my child" | | | | Basically, it all starts with a structure, a guideline. From |
| obviously don't like their child's behavior. Before telling | | | | my own experience, applying a parenting method is |
| you what you should do, I want you to understand that | | | | the best choice you can make. I wanted to "transform |
| kids are not bad. Their behaviour can be bad but not | | | | my child" at one point too and applying advices from |
| them, for the very reason that their personality is a | | | | other parents where not efficient enough. Since then, I |
| work in progress, and you are doing that work. What I | | | | wrote many articles about parenting and I know that |
| mean is that transforming your child therefore means | | | | the advice I give to other parents will not always be |
| changing your own behavior too. But I guess that if you | | | | sufficient because when there is no structure in the |
| ask "how to transform my child?", you already know | | | | family, parents have to create one, choose a guideline |
| you're the one who has to act upon the situation and | | | | to follow. |
| asking your child to change is useless. | | | | A parenting method gives structure, efficient |
| Here's a list of what you're going to need if you want | | | | communication tools and support. You need nothing |
| to transform your child: | | | | else than that because by transforming your parenting |
| - coherence | | | | style, you'll create different reactions in your child which |
| - consistency | | | | will be the beginning of his own transformation. It's a |
| - structure | | | | consequence. |
| - love | | | | I applied a very good parenting method, appropriated |
| - patience | | | | to my daughter's age and personality, and I did |
| - rules | | | | transform my child! Children's bad behavior isn't a |
| - communication | | | | fatality! |
| - support | | | | |