| If your child shows any one of these then read this | | | | The approach of James Lehman is very original and |
| review - Fights constantly, Lies without remorse, | | | | refreshing and goes against the conventional wisdom |
| Disrespectful to authority and peers and | | | | or therapy. And that is where it scores above other |
| argumentative, rebels when privileges are taken away | | | | similar programs. Eg. Should we treat siblings in the |
| or just indifferent, defiant, oppositional, started to show | | | | same way or differently? He thinks it should always |
| criminal tendencies and/or violent behaviour, using | | | | be 'different strokes for different folks'. |
| alcohol or drugs. | | | | Also, the course takes into account that there is |
| Since I have been involved as a trainer and coach in | | | | nothing called 'perfect parenting' and the issue is |
| the field of self development for the last 20 years, I | | | | always with the parents rather than the sibling. The |
| am generally very skeptical about any programs that | | | | parents parent the child based on their notion of how |
| offer quick fix solutions or Nescafe solutions. I am a | | | | they were as kids and hence end up asking for a child |
| firm believer in inside-out approach and believe that the | | | | other than the one they have now. The need is to |
| way to solve the problem is by working on the 'self' | | | | realize that the child is the 'future' and the parent is the |
| rather than 'behavior'. | | | | 'past'. Forget the past ideal child and work with the |
| But I also know that if the tools and techniques related | | | | future real child. |
| to behavior are applied along with the shift in the being, | | | | Yet another dimension that needs to be looked at is |
| they can be very useful as part of the overall strategy. | | | | the 'Martyr' dimension which most parents play. The |
| In that context, I will be reviewing the program offered | | | | child never wakes up until the mother shouts 7 times, |
| by James lehman - The Total Transformation. | | | | parent ends up doing the homework leading to 'learned |
| Briefly speaking, following are the pros and cons of this | | | | helplessness'. Parents act in this manner for ego |
| program: (The detailed version of this review is | | | | gratification without realizing the same, taking away the |
| available on my website mentioned below). | | | | opportunity for the child to become responsible for his |
| This program has both written component (workbook) | | | | or her behavior and life. |
| and the audio visual material through cds and dvds and | | | | All in all, I must admit that Total Transformation |
| this is definitely a better delivery methodology from | | | | Program is definitely a couple of notches above any |
| pedagogical point of view. This makes it a very | | | | other similar program available. And price wise, it |
| effective program in terms of delivery method. One | | | | seems very reasonable and well worth the investment. |
| always enjoys and retains more when the audio and | | | | Remember one fundamental aspect. There is no sliver |
| videos are used for communication. | | | | bullet solution. Like we brush the teeth every morning, |
| This program offers an interactive preview which one | | | | we need to nurture and cultivate the relationship every |
| can experience in the same audio and video form | | | | single day, hour and may be minute by being conscious |
| before deciding to buy the program. This is definitely a | | | | of our interactions with our loved ones. |
| big plus. | | | | |