Parenting Coordination - A Missing Piece Of The Divorce Puzzle

Parenting coordination is a Alternative DisputeBar is working on Parenting Coordination legislation. I
Resolution process. It is not therapy, advocacy, oram a member of this committee together with other
evaluation. A Parenting Coordinator ("PC") provides theattorneys, judges, mental health professionals,
following services to families before, during, and aftermediators, and experts in the field of domestic
divorce: assessment, education, coordination, conflictviolence.
management, mediation, and arbitration - all related toPCs are currently working by court appointment (or by
child-focused issues. Typically, the PC isprivate agreement) across the country. In states that
court-appointed in "high conflict" cases after parentsdo not have statutes, issues arise concerning lack of
have demonstrated their inability to resolveuniformity about qualifications, authority, accountability
child-focused issues. But wouldn't it make more senseand more. Consequently, vigilance is necessary to be
to be proactive and give families access to parentingcertain that PCs are qualified through professional
coordination as a resource early in the process?licensure in law or mental health, are trained in
Doesn't it make sense to have a trained professionalmediation, have a working knowledge of child and
available to work with both parents to help manageadolescent development and family systems, have
parenting issues and develop new communication andspecific training in parenting coordination and the ability
problem-solving skills as their family structure changesto work within the framework of the ADR process,
through divorce?rather than therapy, advocacy or evaluation.
I suppose the answer depends on many factors,There are some PCs who liken their work to "couples
including the qualifications of the PC, authority of thecounseling" - it isn't. Parenting coordination is not
PC, and accountability of the PC. Since there is notherapy. A PC will try to "work their way out of a job."
national licensing or certification body for PCs, we mustThere are some PCs who take sides with one parent
look to state statutes for guidance. Qualifications for aor the other - that's unusual because the PC is defined
PC established by statute may be intentionally vague,as "impartial" or "neutral" in all state statutes. If the PC
such as one who must be "an individual withis court-appointed, the PC may be asked to make
appropriate training and qualifications, and must have arecommendations to the Court, however, that does
perspective acceptable to the court" in Colorado, or anot relieve the PC of the duty to be impartial. The
licensed attorney or mental health professional with aissue of accountability has several dimensions. First,
specific number of years and type of experience andthere is the question of opportunity for review of a
training in North Carolina. The key is to find a qualifiedPC's decisions and recommendations. In
PC whose focus is the Alternative Dispute Resolutioncourt-appointed cases, there are due process
("ADR") process, not therapy, advocacy or evaluation.safeguards built into court orders and statutes.
Assuming attorneys and families can find suitableHowever, those PCs who work without a statute or
professionals to work with them solely onorder must have very clear parameters for their work.
child-focused issues within the ADR process, whatNext, there is the issue of professional accountability
authority should the PC have? It is generally acceptedand ethics since there is no entity that oversees the
that PCs cannot make decisions that affect theconduct of PCs or can be responsive to a consumer
substantive rights of the parties (i.e. changes in legalcomplaint.
custody, physical custody, visitation and child support).It makes sense for families to have access to PCs to
Can the PC be the Final Decision Maker regarding anydo this important work and establish new
specific issues? Authority of the PC will determined bycommunication and problem-solving skills early in the
state statute and/or court order (if they exist), butdivorce process. Families must develop the tools they
what about those families who work with a PC in theneed to avoid conflicts, rather than continue along a
absence of a statute or court order? All PCs (whetherdownward spiral as parenting issues spin out of
court-appointed or not) should have an agreement forcontrol, damaging children, sometimes irreparably. Why
clients to sign that precisely sets forth the parameterswait until a family situation becomes unbearable to go
of the PC's authority as well as all other terms of theto court to petition for appointment of a PC?
professional relationship.Attorneys and judges do not have to micro-manage
Only a handful of states have PC legislation. Oklahomaparenting issues. It makes more sense for attorneys to
was the first state to pass the Parenting Coordinatorrecommend working with PCs early in the divorce
Act in 2001. Idaho, Oregon, Texas, North Carolina,process to avoid litigation regarding child-focused
Colorado and Louisiana have passed PC statutesissues. Why insist on a court order? Stipulations are
since then. In Minnesota, "expeditors" are appointed tomore in sync with the peaceful divorce model. Let's
arbitrate parenting plans. In Arizona, "family courtmake attorneys and families aware of this valuable
advisors" monitor compliance with visitation andalternative approach to the practice of family law.
custody orders. In California, "special masters" andOh - and what if one parent wants to work with the
"referees" are equivalent to PCs. In Ohio andPC and the other doesn't? That, too, will have a
Wisconsin, arbitration statutes are used to facilitatepositive impact on the family - it's "the power of one."
parenting coordination. In Florida, there areOne person has the ability to shift the family dynamics
Administrative Orders regarding parenting coordinationby developing new communication and conflict
in some circuits but not in others. Currently, an Ad Hocmanagement skills. It takes commitment and
Committee of the Family Law Section of The Floridaperseverance -- and it works.