Parenting Guide - 3 Ways to Manage Competitiveness in Children

Although there is nothing wrong with healthycreating an unhealthy mindset. Ultimately, this affects a
competition, there is a risk that kids subject themselveschild's image of himself and self-worth.
to too much pressure chasing their parents'One of the parenting solutions is to constantly monitor
acknowledgments. Parenting workshop experts agreeyour child's reaction towards failure and assure him or
that potential negative ramifications outweigh theher that failure is not the end of the world.
positive but with proper parenting guidelines, theChildren become fearful.
competitiveness can be managed in your kid. TheThis fear of failure also translates itself into children's
following are some of them:unwillingness to take risks, to explore, or to try
Children become misguided.something new, thus stunting their development. With
Instead of seek knowledge and skills, children who areparenting skill, parents can easily administer appropriate
exposed to a "stick and carrot" type of reward andparenting solutions.
punishment system by their parents become deludedAnother fear faced by children who are extremely
and care only for the result. In that quest, they lose outcompetitive or who have been expected to be the
on the spirit of competition and may become abest in whatever they do is the fear of punishment. No
teenager that results in any means possible, whetherone likes to be punished and kids especially place a lot
right or wrong, to achieve goals.of importance in their parent's pleasure or displeasure
Children can get easily frustrated.towards their actions. They have a tendency to keep
If kids focus too much on results instead of thequiet and not ask questions when faced with a
process of competing, they become perfectionists in aproblem, thinking that there is no one else to help them.
negative sense. Kids become easily disturbed byKids will be afraid of failure and would rather not try to
failures and become unhappy, rather than to learnattempt new challenges for fear that they would not
from the lessons in failing. Self-doubt and blame sets in,be able to be the best at it.