| Whenever you are parenting aggressive or | | | | without them hating you. You will want to make |
| disobedient children it can bring out some pretty intense | | | | excuses and explanations for your child. This is only |
| feelings. We are all human and just because we love | | | | natural. No parent wants to accept that their child is |
| our children does not mean that we are immune to | | | | bad or has an anger management problem. |
| their difficult and aggressive behavior. It is important | | | | Having a plan in place is the only way to cause |
| that you do your best not to give into any of these | | | | positive change with the least amount of struggle. Your |
| unruly behaviors. One negative emotional response | | | | child wants to behave and needs your guidance. Your |
| from you losing your temper is all it takes. That is the | | | | child needs your help. Plus, it will offer you a way to |
| main reason why parenting guidelines regarding | | | | remain objective and work as a reference guide for |
| discipline are considered so important. | | | | discipline. |
| They are necessary to achieve any positive results in | | | | The best thing to do is to completely accept and |
| changing behavior. Having a plan in place simply cannot | | | | confront the aggression face to face with your child. |
| be stressed enough. | | | | Whether your child fully comprehends what you are |
| The best way to improve on how you react to your | | | | explaining to them or not. You still need to do this. |
| child's aggression is by being completely prepared for it. | | | | Explain that those negative behaviors are |
| Never allow your child to catch you off guard with | | | | unacceptable. Then explain exactly what will happen |
| their bad behavior. Combat this negative attitude with | | | | when these behaviors return, (and they will return). |
| certain guidelines that you, yourself can put into place. | | | | Often enough, once the initial transition period ends, the |
| These guidelines will need to be custom tailored to fit | | | | majority of aggressive children respond well to a set |
| your needs and the needs of your child. | | | | plan of guidelines. They do much better within a given |
| Keeping in mind that discipline is not the same as | | | | structure. Which leans more towards disciplinary |
| punishment and that in order for discipline to be | | | | guidelines rather than punishing consequences. Most |
| effective you must understand and realize the | | | | parenting guidelines regarding discipline makes things |
| difference. | | | | easier for your child and you. |
| Definition 1. Discipline is guiding or training to act in | | | | Now comes the hard part. Stick to your guns. This is |
| accordance with the rules of appropriate conduct. 2. | | | | vital if you want to change the behavior of your child. |
| Training of behavior in accordance with rules of | | | | Create, buy, borrow, adopt, just get a plan for |
| conduct and/or to improve upon a skill or talent. 3. To | | | | corrective discipline AND STICK TO IT. It will not be |
| demonstrate control or restraint over an impulse or | | | | easy at first but it will eventually get easier and easier. |
| desire. | | | | Eventually the parenting guidelines that you have set |
| Definition 1. Punishment is a penalty imposed upon | | | | will begin to work. They will grow and develop |
| someone guilty of a crime or wrongdoing. 2. To | | | | exponentially and in a positive way. |
| dispense harsh pain, injury or harm. 3. A penalty | | | | Look at it this way, the bright side of this is you are |
| inflicted for an offense or fault. A negative | | | | catching this problem early on. If you keep a positive |
| consequence resulting in severe handling or treatment. | | | | attitude and do not accept failure in this, then |
| These are very prominent differences. You can | | | | everything will be okay. However, if you ignore this |
| achieve discipline without punishment. In fact, it has | | | | problem it will grow beyond your ability to do anything |
| been proven time and time again that punishment is | | | | about it. It will become a major problem for you in the |
| ineffective in controlling or changing negative behavior. | | | | future. You will be held responsible for whatever |
| The usual result is distrust, rebellion, and ultimately more | | | | trouble your child causes. Dealing with teachers, other |
| negative behavior. | | | | parents, principles, maybe even the police at some |
| The hardest challenge when it comes to parenting | | | | point will not be very fun for you. |
| aggressive kids is trying to change their behavior | | | | |