Parents of Aspergers Children, Don't Be Intimidated by Medical and Educational Professionals

After raising children for sixteen years, I've learned toWhen I took my son into preschool, the vice principal
trust my instincts. In fact, one psychologist told me thattold me that my son was too young to receive a
I have a PhD in my children. In this particular case hediagnosis of Aspergers Syndrome. When I requested
was referring to my autistic son, who was five yearsmy son be tested for speech and language disabilities, I
old at the time.was told that he had none. The Individualized
He said, "You've been studying him for five years now.Educational Plan (IEP) my son had at the beginning of
That's how long it takes some psychologists to earnpreschool was withdrawn.
their PhD. You are an expert on your son. Don't letIn kindergarten my son came home thirty-eight days in
anyone tell you different."a row having had a wetting accident during class. I
Medical Personnel:thought I had complained to everyone that something
I wish I had this much confidence in myself when mywas wrong. Maybe I did and maybe I didn't. All I know
middle son was an infant. I kept taking him in for hisis after a meeting between my attorney and
well baby check ups and complained aboutspecialists and the school board's vice superintendent,
developmental delays. He was months behind hisattorney and the school's principal, my son was
brother for smiling, babbling, crawling, walking, talking,immediately moved to a different classroom and
etc.teacher. The wetting accidents stopped.
I was intimidated into not looking for answers for threeThere was a discrepancy between the quality of
years by one simple comment from his doctor. "Oh,work he was bringing home and what he was doing at
you had the perfect child first." When my son washome. I felt my son had a learning disability. The school
three and a half years old, I ventured to ask my owndid not. I went to the local learning disability advocates
physician in the same family practice. She administeredwho confirmed that the school did not have to do
some developmental tests on the spot. Then sheanything more for my child. I hired an attorney and
immediately handed me a referral to a children'seducational consultant who affirmed my position.
developmental clinic.In the end, I did not continue with the services of the
It turned out I was correct in my concern. My sonhired professionals. Once I had begun to trust in my
received the diagnosis of Aspergers Syndrome fromown instincts, I began advocating on my own for my
this clinic. Fortunately, my son was not adverselyson. Eventually we did receive a new IEP for my son.
affected by the delay in a diagnosis and earlyHe went from a child in the top two thirds of his class
interventions.to earning straight 'A' report cards and being placed in
Educational Professionals:the Honors program.