| You may wonder if the entire divorce proceedings are | | | | and you can charge your ex with contempt of court.o |
| ever going to have a mental impact on them. Will they | | | | Consistent Fights and Squabbles: The whole world |
| be able to accept the concept of two homes, | | | | was under the impression that you had split up owing |
| visitations? Will they be affectionate as usual or will | | | | to the constant duels that you were having with your |
| they be distancing themselves from you? | | | | ex. Now, if you were to continue the same, we do not |
| Recent studies and researches have indicated that | | | | see any reason as to why you should have split in the |
| children of today are mentally tough to accept divorce | | | | first place. You could have at least saved the child, the |
| and its consequences. They are ready to share your | | | | agony of living apart from their parents. |
| views on the whole idea of divorce. But, on the other | | | | Child delinquency is a serious issue in today's world |
| hand, you have a greater responsibility of effective | | | | caused by parents who are constantly at war with |
| co-parenting along with your ex. You need to exercise | | | | each other. This deprives them of all the wonderful |
| greater care and caution even as children transition | | | | things surrounding childhood. It would be like trampling a |
| themselves to this new setup. | | | | seedling even before it raises its head off the ground.o |
| Post-Divorce Parenting Problems | | | | Using Children for Personal Gains: For the time that |
| Irrespective of a divorce in any community anywhere | | | | your child is with you, ensure that you shower all your |
| in the world, post-divorce parenting problems have | | | | love on them. Do not use them to avenge your ex by |
| been the same. Most of these problems arise out of | | | | either asking your child to spy on your ex or |
| visitation. Some of them are as follows:o Inconsistent | | | | bad-mouthing them. In either case, this is going to |
| Visitation: It always happens that the custodial parent | | | | worsen the current situation causing a further rift. |
| keeps complaining about the ex not making his regular | | | | Non-Custodial Parents - Positive Guidelines for |
| visitation. Either they do not turn up on time, do not turn | | | | Effective Parenting |
| up at all or, in the worst case scenario, their | | | | - Be punctual on your visitation. |
| whereabouts are not known. | | | | - Encourage your child to speak his heart out with you. |
| As a non-custodial parent, you will have to understand | | | | - Give them a lot of reassurance that the love you |
| the implications of not visiting your child as per the | | | | and your ex have for them will never change. |
| schedule. Your child might require confiding in you | | | | - Involve yourself in every aspect of their life. |
| which they might not be able to do with the other | | | | - Avoid arguments and quarrels with your ex in front |
| parent. They might have numerous stories to narrate | | | | of your children. |
| to you about happenings at school. For all that you | | | | - Make your child feel at home when he is with you. |
| know, they might be eagerly awaiting your visit every | | | | - Work with your ex to develop an effective parenting |
| time. | | | | plan to see your children through as successive |
| Now, when you do not turn up on time, they might | | | | individuals. |
| develop a sense of being left out or ignored. This can | | | | Conclusion - The Last Word |
| lead to dire consequences in their later part of their | | | | If you are a person who is constantly under the |
| lives. They can eventually turn into loners and losers | | | | thought that things are never going to be the same, |
| and eventually lose confidence in themselves. | | | | please drop it off at this point. A winner is one who |
| On the other hand, non-custodial parents face | | | | makes the best out of a worst situation. And we hope |
| problems from their ex. For some reason, the ex might | | | | that you can take that little step to keep your child |
| refrain from sending their children as part of the regular | | | | happy and not deprive them of the wonders of |
| visitation. Now, this becomes a serious legal offence | | | | childhood for no fault of theirs. |