Social Skills For Kids - How to Stop Your Kids From Buying Friends

Does your child buy friendships with candy and gifts?Let's role play this social skill right now. Then practice
Are you worried that she's being used? Would you likethis skill during the week and let me know the results."
her to find a better way to make friends? Inside you'llSecond Social Skill Parenting Tip:
find 3 parenting tips for making friends without buyingAdvise your child to "Repeat what your friends say in
them.your own words. This will show you really listened.
Recently, I received an email from a psychologist whoYour friend will love your attention. Let's make up
works with kids. She wrote, "One problem I would likesome typical situations and role play this skill. Then
to see addressed is when children try and win friendspractice it with other kids this week and tell me the
by giving them gifts." What a great topic! Below areresults."
some questions to ask and 3 parenting tips to share.Third Social Skill Parenting Tip:
Parenting Questions:Remind your child to "Smile when you talk. Smiling
I suggest that you sit down with your kids. Talk abouthelps you look friendly. Smiles show that you like your
making friends and ask these 3 questions to get themfriends. Smiles relax you inside and give you a happy
thinking.feeling. Let's pretend I'm one of your friends and let's
First - "How could buying friendships with candy andpractice smiling while we talk. Next, practice this skill
gifts be an insult to the giver?"with your friends and let me know the results."
Second - "If kids like a person because of their gifts,Thank you to the psychologist who asked for this
how good are those friendships?"topic. I hope you can use these tips. I also hope they
Third - "Would you like some secrets to making realhelp all parents who want their kids to make true
friends?"friends.
If your child answers "Yes" to the third question, PickSocial Skill Conclusion:
out some social skills your child needs. Practice one aMany kids don't know how to make friends. They may
week. Consider using the following social skills.be shy, bully other kids, brag, or just feel awkward. As
First Social Skill Parenting Tip:the parent, you have the opportunity to coach them. If
Tell your child, "Act happy and say, 'Hi,' when you seeyou do, you'll be giving them an important skill for life.
your friends. Your friends will feel great and so will you.You'll be building character too.