| Spiritual Parenting revolves around attention. | | | | shows that are marketed directly at them specifically |
| How can a parent use attention to communicate | | | | to influence. They don't want you to save them, just |
| prosperously? | | | | understand them. |
| First we need to look at where the attention comes | | | | 5) Kids need to know secrets and things they aren't |
| from. Attention comes from our secret needs that | | | | suppose to know: Telling your kids this list of secret |
| drives almost all responses in every situation. | | | | need will help them talk to others. You might tell your |
| Understanding these secret needs will allow efficient | | | | kids that other kids need to feel needed, understood, |
| communication in everything you do including talking | | | | sense of hope, being right, sense of power. Talk to |
| with your kids. | | | | your kids about these secrets. |
| List of Secret Needs | | | | 6) Kids need to be right: Setting your kids up in every |
| 1) Kids need to feel needed: When someone | | | | conversation so they are right is such a powerful |
| understands that they are needed it fulfills many hidden | | | | move. When you agree with what your kids are |
| desires. example; Timmy thank you for mowing the | | | | saying everyone wins. This communication is for |
| lawn I appreciate your support for the family. | | | | experienced adults who can go the distance. |
| 2) When feeling down, kids will do anything to gain a | | | | 7) Kids need to feel a sense of power: Power comes |
| sense of hope: This is usually dealing with someones | | | | from choice. Simple as that. When your kids have a |
| dreams. When someone is experiencing loss of vision | | | | sense of choice they will be growing in the most |
| with a dream. Saying that these things take time and | | | | prosperous way. This is for the most experienced |
| everything happens for a reason could make all the | | | | adults. I don't know how to explain the potent nature of |
| difference. Understanding not to rush your dreams or | | | | this one. Choice is everything. Politicians give out the |
| success is very important when providing hope. | | | | illusion of choice everyday. They are the parents of |
| 3) People need a scapegoat: This is mostly dealing | | | | our nation. |
| with adults. Adults always want to know that its not | | | | The secret to effective communication is to put away |
| their fault. Kids on the other hand secretly love to | | | | "your secret needs" while addressing someone else's |
| know they are responsible for their own actions. That | | | | needs. If you are caught up on your secret needs, you |
| is one of the most empowering things to say to a kid. | | | | won't be able to address those of another. Take |
| What kids choose to do is their responsibility. | | | | some time to think about how secret needs are |
| 4) Kids need to feel understood: Being understood is | | | | triggered in every conversation. If someone gets |
| so important. If you could do any of these, do this one. | | | | offend by something you said, then you must have hit |
| Acknowledge everyday that you understand your kids. | | | | on one of their secret needs. Learn more here Spiritual |
| Simply say. I understand you! You are old, they are | | | | Love Making. |
| young. They are growing up with movies and TV | | | | |