| You've chosen the path of mediation to decide on a | | | | divorce issues from child custody negotiation in the |
| post-divorce parenting plan for your children. Though it | | | | session. |
| is oft-said that mediation can solve all your divorce | | | | Don't withhold your children to punish your ex-spouse. |
| problems and ease both of you into a smooth | | | | Don't be combative with your ex-spouse in these |
| separation, but you still need to have some things up | | | | meetings. Bring a fair, business-like attitude with you. |
| your sleeve to get the best scenario for yourself, your | | | | Do acknowledge your ex-partner's parenting strengths |
| ex-spouse, and your children. | | | | when the opportunity comes up - it shows you are a |
| If this is your first time, you may want to do some | | | | willing team player in the care of your kids, even |
| homework before you head straight into the meeting | | | | though you are divorced. |
| room. Time is money, so don't waste precious minutes | | | | Don't hide valid concerns about the other parent's |
| and hours by not knowing what you want and going in | | | | ability to care for the children in certain areas or |
| with the wrong attitude. | | | | situations. |
| Here are some do's and don'ts for mediation: | | | | Do bring with you a personal calendar of your work |
| Do put your children's needs first. | | | | schedule, holidays, and the children's timetable of |
| Do consider their special needs according to their age, | | | | activities. |
| character and educational development. | | | | Do prepare your own proposal of a child custody |
| Do separate your child support payment and other | | | | time-sharing plan. |