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Once a child has been diagnosed with ADHD, it can bring incredible relief for some people. It gives the ability to provide a very clear understanding or framework for why a child is struggling. But for others, it can just create more confusion. - Where do we go from here? - What do we do with this information? - What does it all really mean? - And so much more... For some reason, ADHD has a very negative reputation for causing problems and creating more challenges in life. Even more so, it can really tear some people and families apart. Would You Like To Know Why? Once we are given a diagnosis, especially ADHD, a lot of people stop there. It's as if we have the answer to what is going, and that...

ADHD symptoms are pretty easy to write down in a book, or explain as a definition. But beyond that, ADHD and being easy don't ever belong in the same sentence. In fact, there is nothing easy about ADHD as a condition or diagnosis. It is actually one of the most complex and controversial conditions or diagnoses I have ever worked with, or spoken about. As a matter of fact, I have never seen a child who is just struggling with ADHD. I have never consulted on a case where ADHD was the only influencing or contributing factor. Yet for someone, so many of my colleagues and other so called "experts" in the community try so hard to fit everything inside the label ADHD. Most People Get It Wrong Unfortunately...

There is a lot of controversy surrounding ADHD. I think it's pretty fair to say that it is likely one of the most controversial conditions diagnosed today. While most people identify the symptoms of hyperactivity, impulsivity, and inattention with ADHD, many people unknowingly overlook the many different conditions that mimic these symptoms. This is a topic I am rather sensitive about for many different reasons. First off, there is an ongoing debate among the ADHD community about the negatives associated with the condition versus those who talk about the alleged "gifts" of ADHD. Next there is a community outside of ADHD who dispute the validity of the condition, not to mention a community who...

There are a lot of myths about ADHD, and there are a lot of people who believe that ADHD is nothing more than a way to excuse or allow certain children to get away with bad behavior. I can tell you first hand that this is absolutely not true. But I also understand why people can think that way. There are a lot of people who don't understand ADHD and how it affects a child. For the parent of a child with ADHD, there is nothing more confusing and frustrating than trying to figure out what behavior you can expect from your child. As someone who works with families affected by ADHD, I can tell you that this is one of the most common questions and struggles that parents face. Why does my child behave...

In our busy lives, we are often listening to our children on the run, or not stopping and giving them our full attention. For some kids this is OK but for children who are experiencing behavioural, learning and health issues listening can really make a difference. Often when a child is acting out, getting into trouble at school, or having hyperactive tendencies they are really saying "PLEASE LISTEN TO ME"! Here are some 'heart-centred' listening ideas you may like to try: Start by being present with your child, and letting go of any thoughts, ideas, judgements and expectations. If your child starts to talk: 1. Listen to what they are saying, let them talk for as long as they need to. And try not to...

People often make inappropriate comments because they don't know how to relate, are at a loss as to what to say, and frankly are a bit socially dysfunctional. Sadly parents don't teach children and their teenagers manners, social etiquette, and how to relate in various situations. Unfortunately most teens never get taught by parents how to build rapport, connect, and communicate with people. Incidentally schools are no better at instructing in these matters as such issues never appear in curriculum. Some inappropriate comments and questions that strangers say to parents: 1. Are your children natural? 2. May I touch your belly? 3. Why aren't you staying home with the kids? 4. Are you a good mother? 5...

Attention Deficit Disorder symptoms or sometimes known either as ADD or ADHD is common among children as early as during their infancy. The majority of these cases however is most apparent in children from the ages of 7 and above. Parents of children who suspect their child of having ADD/ADHD are often given the shocking news when the diagnosis comes out as being negative. What this means is that parents often only bring their children for professional help when they have a strong suspicion that their child is suffering from this disorder. Most parents are well-versed with the Attention Deficit Disorder symptoms especially among those who are well-educated. These symptoms are obvious and in most...

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is a behavioral disorder that affects nearly ten percent of all school aged children. Parents raising children diagnosed with ADHD can benefit from different discipline methods than those they were raised with. It is possible to teach children good behaviors while using discipline techniques that do not include time-outs, behavioral charts or reward charts. Before parents can begin to enforce rules and boundaries they need to be established first. If the child is old enough, include him/her in the process. Write them down and place in a conspicuous place where they can be easily referenced. Once the rules are established, it is up to the parents to enforce...

After raising children for sixteen years, I've learned to trust my instincts. In fact, one psychologist told me that I have a PhD in my children. In this particular case he was referring to my autistic son, who was five years old at the time. He said, "You've been studying him for five years now. That's how long it takes some psychologists to earn their PhD. You are an expert on your son. Don't let anyone tell you different." Medical Personnel: I wish I had this much confidence in myself when my middle son was an infant. I kept taking him in for his well baby check ups and complained about developmental delays. He was months behind his brother for smiling, babbling, crawling, walking, talking, etc...

ADHD students may get a boost in their studies if they are taught to rely on their preferred learning style. You can help your child by identifying their natural learning style from among the three that are most commonly known. While some experts believe that there are as many as seven distinct learning styles in children, most people believe there are three that stand out from the rest. Visual Learners As you might suspect, these learners do best from seeing material in their field of vision. For some, it might be reviewing notes or following a visual problem on the blackboard. While for others, they might need to create visual patterns to help them learn new material. Auditory Learners Students...

I saw an interaction between a parent and her child in a department store. The child asked for candy. Mom said no. The child asked more loudly with a whine. Mom said", I said no, now hush." The child began wailing. Mom tried to ignore it. Mom began to notice the disturbed looks from the other customers. To prevent being embarrassed further by the child's display, the mom gave the child the candy. No did not mean "no"...it merely means it is time to kick in the tantrum technique. Children grow up and become adults. Because they have never learned the meaning of "no", they have no boundaries. They do what they want without regard to rules and laws. Prisons are full of grown children who never learned...

It's easy to stand at a distance and judge other parents, saying that they should always stay calm and be understanding of their children, being patient because their children are young. Before we point the finger though, we should remember that no one is perfect in this world. Life leads us to many situations where it's difficult to stay cool and level-headed. However, most people would agree that even though we may lose our temper sometimes, we should all try our best at whatever we do. This is a big difference between people; some are willing to always try their best while others are not. Some people are constantly looking for new ways to improve themselves and working hard to make things better...

Copyright (c) 2010 Ewen Chia When it comes to parenting styles, we often find two types of parents - the encourager and the intimidator. An encouraging parent focuses on using positive reinforcements to get their kids to work towards a certain target. An intimidating parent, on the other hand, uses punishments as part of his parenting style to get their kids to conform to a particular action. To begin with, all 3 methods works in getting your child to conform to your expectations. Which one works the best however, depends on how your child responds to them. There are techniques that childcare expects recommend over others. Encouragement should not be mixed up with pampering though. Pampering means...

When a child is diagnosed with ADHD, parents will often blame themselves. "What did I do to cause this?" is their first question. The short answer is: nothing. Research shows that this condition has biological causes. Knowing this can help parents who think they caused their child to get this condition. Why do some kids get this? Nobody really knows. But there are certain risk factors that make it more likely that a child will develop this condition. Genetics and heredity can play a big role, as ADHD does seem to run in families. If a child has this problem, there is a 25 percent chance that a close relative has it too. About twice as many boys have symptoms of this condition as girls do...

Why would parents who may enjoy drinking alcohol, choose not to partake, for the sake of their kids? Intelligent parents, who want to save their children from the damaging effects of alcohol use, will choose not to drink alcohol themselves. Arguments to prove that point: 1. Modeling or example is the best teacher. 2. A double stand doesn’t work. Kids do what you do not what you say. 3. Telling a child they should not drink until they are twenty-one is a temporary solution and teaches them drinking alcohol is ok. What happens, if when they become 21, they choose to drink and end up destroying their life anyway? The first drink can be the beginning of alcoholism or it can lead to a DUI at any age...

Here is a generation in which dads have to work hard and also spare time for their newborn. It goes without saying that having a newborn baby in the house can turn your life upside down, but you will feel glad and happy. The beginning will be tough, but in due course you will adjust. Quality time does not mean spending long hours with the baby. Even singing for 5 minutes, making funny faces for 3 minutes or just staring at your baby for 30 seconds can build a relationship between you. Let the baby enter your routine life. Just do the things you used to do alone, but this time round allow your baby to be a part. Spend time with your baby by walking around the street; take him or her for a ride, or...

What 7 most distressful situations to kids that divorced parents should avoid? Learn them to spare your kids from the painful consequences. 1. Carrying Message Between Parents A child doesn't like the feeling that he or she must act as a messenger between hostile parents or carry one adult's secrets or accusations about another. Children want parents to talk with each other so that the messages are communicated the right way and so that children don't feel like they are going to mess up. Parents must take the responsibility to talk directly with each other, especially if the topic is likely to anger the other parent. It is unfair to make your child carry messages to your "ex" because you find it...

Single mothers face a lot of problems while bringing up children in USA. Financial problems being the most important as ex-husband may not pay the court order money for child support. These mothers may not be able to do a full time job as a result they may not be able to pay for day care and may not meet the criteria for head start. Many are thus dependent on AFDC (aid to families with dependent children) or WIC (Women Infants and children). This dependence on welfare organization once established is difficult to break. There are many reasons for the financial worries of single mothers. Although most ex-spouses fulfill their court ordered financial obligations regarding their children; a few of them...

It is not uncommon for children, even under 5, to have difficulties with anxiety. There are a number of conditions in childhood that are characterised by severe anxiety and these include school refusal (school phobia), social phobia, elective mutism, separation anxiety disorder and a variety of phobias. Just how and why some children succumb to these difficulties is not clearly understood as yet but there is often a clear family correspondence. You often hear parents say, "Oh, my grandmother was so nervous all the time, she rarely left the house." or something along those lines. Children on the autistic spectrum often experience severe anxiety however because their communication difficulties can be...

If your child shows any one of these then read this review - Fights constantly, Lies without remorse, Disrespectful to authority and peers and argumentative, rebels when privileges are taken away or just indifferent, defiant, oppositional, started to show criminal tendencies and/or violent behaviour, using alcohol or drugs. Since I have been involved as a trainer and coach in the field of self development for the last 20 years, I am generally very skeptical about any programs that offer quick fix solutions or Nescafe solutions. I am a firm believer in inside-out approach and believe that the way to solve the problem is by working on the 'self' rather than 'behavior'. But I also know that if the...

The words angry child or angry children is very upsetting and fear producing for many people, you are not alone. And I know that you must often times look at the situation and say to yourself "I don't believe that this is happening to my beautiful child." So here are 5 ways to help your child get over his ordeal with anger. Specific instructions. To keep your child from damaging something or hurting someone because of anger, you will need to give him some very specific instructions. For example if he is playing with a toy and another child comes along and takes the toy. Your child needs to hear the instruction that in such a situation the right thing to do is find the adult that is in charge and...

It is okay for your child to be proud of their talents, skills, and abilities. And to have them proud of themselves, you can show them by being positive and confident about yourself. Always be positive when you speak about yourself and highlight your strengths. Showing how to be self confident is better than telling them. Honest and positive praise can be considerable gains for your child. Find something about them to compliment every day. You could even assign your child a chore you know they can complete and then praise them for a job well done after they're completed. Show your child that positive acts merit positive completed. When your child's feeling sad, angry or depressed, communicate...

Parenting teens is a challenge for every parent regardless how respectful or disrespectful they may be. We had two teenagers who are now well adjusted adults but the process of bringing them there was a challenge at times and a joy at others. Parenting teens is a challenge for every parent regardless how respectful or disrespectful they may be. We had two teenagers who are now well adjusted adults but the process of bringing them there was a challenge at times and a joy at others. No matter how good or bad your teenager is, he or she does desire to be loved and valued. Unfortunately, they are also just as worried about fitting in at school, being popular, wearing the right clothes, and not looking...

Although the marital relationship between you and your spouse will come to a screeching halt, the relationship between your children and the other parent will, and should, continue. Undeniably and understandably, parenting during the stress of a divorce can be very challenging. Here are 10 tips to help with effective parenting through divorce. 1. Do not discuss the specifics of the divorce process. Adults have great difficulty understanding the technicalities of the court process. It is unfair and unreasonable to expect children to understand the process. Discussing the details of the court process will only add to their confusion. 2. Do not use your children as a shoulder to cry on. Children do not...

Many parents are concerned as to how they should parent their six to seven year old child that has been diagnosed with ADHD. ADHD is a behavioral disorder, not a personality disorder. A child with ADHD is often very restless, has trouble following directions or paying attention. These are just a few things that parents are challenged with when they are trying to teach their young child good behaviors. Six to seven year old children that do not have ADHD are beginning to control their impulsiveness. This may not be the case for a child with ADHD. They are still learning what consequences their actions hold. This makes it extremely important for the parents to enforce consequences consistently. A...

Reading is truly the foundation of our kids' educational experience. If your child's middle school reading skills aren't up to par they are going to face an uphill struggle that will get progressively worse. As parents, we want to do everything in our power to help our kids succeed. There are actually a few things you can do with your child at home that will get them an edge in class. One easy way to improve middle school reading skills is to help your child pick out reading materials that actually interest them. A big problem with textbooks is that children just don't find them interesting. At home it's better to have your child read things that are fascinating to them. For instance, boys are often...

It is so easy to loose your cool when your child is misbehaving, or having a tantrum, or is loosing control in some way. If your child is yelling at you, you want to yell back. This is a mistake. Your child will just learn that it is O.K. to yell when things go wrong. In order to teach your child to remain calm, you must remain calm yourself. As a parent you can choose what you are going to do and what you are going to say so that the child learns by words and example that it is possible to be calm when things go wrong, when he is disappointed, upset, or angry. Here are some tips to help parents stay calm and in control. 1. Look at your child and observe how young he/she is and think about how...

Not surprisingly, teen drivers are at a greater risk for accidents on the road.  Charge it to inexperience, lack of study or plain carelessness --- the common teen driving mistakes are what parents and instructors should focus on when they teach. Here's a list of common teen driving mistakes, and how to potentially avoid them: They don't wear safety belts.  Now a standard when building cars, over 170 million vehicles on the road have them --- so why do teen drivers still forget to strap on their safety belts?  One of the worst teen driving mistake is assuming they are invincible while driving.  Safety belts, coupled with air safety bags lessen the risk of accidents being fatal.  Be the example...

Change is difficult, especially for children! The “thinking” part of their brains is not completely developed yet and their emotions are immature. Although children are born with distinctive dispositions, they are effected by the emotional environment in which they are raised. Thus, parents are ultimately responsible for two levels of emotional inheritance; one nature, the other, nurture. Genetic dispositions are more difficult to identify and control. However, environmental factors are more malleable. Generally, parents are aware that their emotions, like anger, effect their children’s emotional development. Many parents reach out for help to find emotional balance and self-regulation. As...

There are accidents and incidents every Halloween that can spoil the holiday. Pedestrian accidents, tampered products causing illness or lacerations, falls, fires, etc. Here are my Top 10 Tips to keep your family safe this Halloween. 1. Costumes. Make sure the costumes you buy are flame retardant. They should fit well and not be too long so kids can walk without tripping. Watch out for dangling strings, fringes, scarves, etc. When choosing a costume, pick ones that will be comfortable for hours of wear, and will keep the child warm enough for chilly nights trick or treating. Avoid costumes and accessories that are sharp or pointy. 2. Be visible. Costume that are reflective or bright are best so...

Parents who want to prevent their children from drinking. Many kids and teens try alcohol. Most children have their first alcohol at an early age, as young as 10 or 11 or even younger. This is dangerous. alcohol can cause special problem for kids and teenagers because many parts of their body  are not fully grown yet.  They are also more likely to develop problems with alcohol later in life. Many kids to get the wrong message about alcohol. Children are receiving powerful messages about alcohol from the media, their friends, families and from your own attitudes and behaviors. So it’s important to start discussing alcohol use and abuse with your kids at an early age and keep talking about it as...