Parenting Book Review: (Misconceptions) Truth, Lies and the Unexpected on the Journey to Motherhood

Naomi Wolf's newest book, Misconceptions, is aand given the title, "The Patron Saint." It is obvious that
testament to her own experiences and prejudicesMs. Wolf is in awe of Gaskin, yet wasn't converted by
about childbirth. Ms. Wolf shares her ownher to better educate herself and choose a less
culturally-learned fears about childbirth but fails tointerventive childbirth. It is also apparent that Ms. Wolf
recognize that this is in response to 100 years ofdid not read the original Spiritual Midwifery book. If she
medical society propaganda. Although she has accesshad, she would have learned that Ina May wasn't
to research and studies documenting the safety ofexactly "a self-taught, lay midwife" but that her earliest
homebirth and non-medical midwifery, she paints birthtraining had come from an obstetrician (who also
outside an institution as dangerous. She chose to giveprovided medication and instruments) and a local
birth with obstetricians in high risk hospitals and hadphysician who provided friendly back-up for years. She
cesareans both times. I think the book could have beenalso would have learned that the Farm clinic included a
more aptly titled, "(Misrepresentations) My Pain Phobiaphysician.It is curious that Ms. Wolf is intrigued by
and Justification for My Cesareans."I heard about thisfree-standing birth centers and offers them up as a
book through discussions on the internet which praisedperfect choice for women. She is somehow under the
it for setting the record straight about childbirth. Afterimpression that pain-relieving drugs are readily available
looking at the book myself, however, I have come tofor those who give birth at these centers, yet her
an entirely different conclusion. It is simply another book,depiction of Elizabeth Seton indicates a transport to
written to justify the unwarranted use of medicalthe hospital for those who wish an epidural. How this is
intervention and sequelae, unnecessary cesareans,an improvement over one's own home is a mystery to
and excuse bad maternity care decisions. Instead ofme. Perhaps it is her fascination with institutions? and
accurately depicting birthing choices in America, Ms.her phobia about pain?Complete Mother readers will
Wolf used this book as a vehicle to promote her ownfind her descriptions of breastfeeding revolting:
opinions and discredit traditional midwives, homebirth,"become someone's addiction." And quoting Sarah
full-time motherhood and ecological breastfeeding.Ms.Hardy, "once nursing begins, bondage is a perfectly
Wolf places great importance on the book "What togood description for the ensuing chain of events (and)
Expect When You're Expecting", as though this islives on a mammary leash." How sad she didn't bother
some highly regarded research book or the childbirthto go to a Le Leche League meeting or meet
Bible. Sadly this book is written to promote the medicalsomeone who was content breastfeeding. We can
model of care and justify the many interventionsonly guess that she probably was bottle fed, and
foisted upon women who choose to have hospitallacking the nurturing of being breastfed herself, is
births. She carefully goes through the many routinecompensating by portraying breastfeeding in a dim
hospital procedures and explains the many risks andlight.Her social programs which would improve the
few benefits of each, yet she apparently did notworld basically abdicate parental responsibilities to the
believe her own research.Those who have fought forgovernment. She wants paid extended maternity
years to eradicate the meaningless term "lay midwife"leave, tax deductions and benefits to relatives who
will immediately recognize Ms. Wolf's superficialcome to help the new mothers, on-site day care and
understanding of birth attendants. Her repeated use ofnurseries, lots of hospital support programs, hospital
this term is a clear indicator of her lack of researchstatistics disclosure, parentless playgrounds monitored
and knowledge of childbirth. I half expected to see theby "young people" so "an active, thoughtful mother,
terms "redskin" or "nigger" pop up during discussionfather. (won't be) uncomfortable at the playground."
about minority statistics.She writes as a fact,Basically she wants the government to act as nanny
"homebirth is now as safe as hospital birth." Now asso she can get her work done. "Work" being
safe? It has always been at least as safe! An entiresomething far more important than caring for her
book, The Five Standards by David Stewart, giveschildren herself.Save yourself a few hours of
thousands of studies and statistics which conclude thatfrustration wading through this tripe. Instead, make a
homebirth is safer than hospital birth.I took greatpot of raspberry leaf tea, give the older kids a fun
offense at her term, "Naturalists," (pages 182-186) toproject to do, put your feet up and put baby to breast
describe anyone who would dare to promote or giveand read the books she ignored: The Five Standards,
birth without high-technology. She explains that thisUnder the Apple Tree, The American Way of Birth,
option "has been presented as so rigid .with suchBeing Born, Birth at Home, Your Baby, Your Way,
extreme requirements of courage and faith. It was forSpecial Delivery, Labor Pains, Silent Knife, Malpractice:
that reason that my husband and I would not considerHow Doctors Manipulate Women, Obstetric Myths
it as an option." I wonder, what research led her to thisVersus Research Realities, Gentle Birth Choices and
conclusion? Judging from many comments which saltback-issues of The Compleat Mother
her book, it would seem she is her own source ofMagazine.Rebecca Waters is the book reviewer for
"factual" information.Anyone who promoted birthThe Compleat Mother Magazine - Rebecca is also a
without drugs is included in this Naturalist group andcontributor to Nursing Programs Online at and to
portrayed as romanticizing the birthing event. Ina MayGo-Law-School at Rebecca is also a mother of seven
Gaskin, however, is somehow exempt from this groupand the wife of an interesting dude.