| Oftentimes a quiz can be an effective learning device. | | | | many invalidations would the average teenager |
| For that reason consider the following questions and | | | | therefore receive during his or her teenage years |
| see what you learn. Hopefully a few questions will | | | | (13-19) from the four sources mentioned in question 5? |
| inspire you in the direction of improved management | | | | (Do the math)How many validations are you giving |
| and leadership skill development. The answers are at | | | | your young employees each day to offset the |
| the bottom of the column, but please resist the | | | | invalidations they are receiving?Some psychologists |
| temptation to peak until you have given some serious | | | | believe that one effectively delivered validation can |
| thought about your answers.How many hours of TV | | | | offset up to ten invalidations. How many validations are |
| do fathers between the ages of 25-34 watch each | | | | you giving your family members and your employees? |
| week?a. 10 hoursb. 15 hoursc. 20 hoursd. Almost 26 | | | | How many invalidations do you give or permit others |
| hoursHow many hours of TV does the average | | | | to give in your presence?On average, how much |
| non-working spouse watch each week?a. 20 hoursb. | | | | feedback (supportive and corrective) do you give |
| 25 hoursc. 30 hoursd. Almost 48 hoursHow many acts | | | | each of your employees each day?a. 1 minute per |
| of violence will the average child have witnessed on | | | | dayb. 10 minutes per weekc. 20 minutes per weekd. |
| TV by age 18?a. 25,000b. 50,000c. 75,000d. | | | | 30 minutes per weekANSWERS: |
| 180,000How much time does the average father | | | | d. Almost 26 hours (This is amazing!) |
| spend giving meaningful feedback to his children?a. 1 | | | | d. Almost 48 hours (This is even more amazing!) |
| minute per dayb. 10 minutes per weekc. 20 minutes | | | | d. 200,000 (according to the American Academy of |
| per weekd. 30 minutes per weekHow much time each | | | | Pediatrics) |
| day does the average married couple spend giving | | | | a. 1 minute per day (This is sad, but it explains what is |
| meaningful feedback to each other?a. Less than 4 | | | | happening to many of our youth.) |
| minutesb. About 15 minutesc. Approximately 20 | | | | a. Less than 4 minutes (This explains the 50% divorce |
| minutesd. Slightly more than 30 minutesA psychological | | | | rate.) |
| validation is a specific type of supportive feedback | | | | d. 113 (Unbelievable!) |
| that sustains a person in some way. An invalidation is a | | | | 288,715 (Unimaginable!) |
| critical or sarcastic comment that is hurtful or | | | | An effective manager will take every opportunity to |
| demeaning. On average, how many invalidations does | | | | deliver validations to all employees, especially those |
| the average teenager receive each day from: parents, | | | | who need them most such as the younger population. |
| friends, teachers and siblings?a. 11b. 21c. 57d. 113How | | | | |